When you work, you have to be in a group, a few taels of silver, and control a part of your social networking.
When you are retired, you should live spontaneously, be gregarious, respect your own wishes, and not be kidnapped by emotions.
Zeng Guofan said: "If you are cautious, you will have peace of mind." ”
If you want to protect your mood and a stable life, you must learn to be alone and find happiness in it.
Obviously, on the day of retirement, it is quite smart to zero out the unsuitable circle and choose an unsociable life.
Take care of your body and stay away from the "wine and meat circle".
The philosopher Democritus said, "The beauty of the body, if it is not combined with intelligence, is something animal." ”If you are in good health, you have to be in good spirits and have the wisdom to protect your body.
Many retired old people, at the drinking party, boasted of themselves: "I am in good health, and I have no problem drinking." ”
The cowhide is blown out, the wine glass is served, and there are more opportunities to get drunk.
Perhaps, drank a few taels of liquor, but you were not drunk. However, the relevant organs of the body should start to speed up their movements to dissolve the alcohol you have drunk. It's a burden on the body.
There is a proverb that says, "Whoever drowns knows how to water." ”
Stretch it out and you'll understand,The people who are harmed by "eating and drinking from the sea" are all people who are good at "eating and drinking".
If you are not good at mixing dinners and prevaricating the dinner everywhere, there will naturally be no one. People won't look at your "cold eyes" again and again, will they?
When you are retired, no matter how healthy you are, you are not as good as a young man, and the matter of health preservation is particularly important.
Whoever invites you to eat and drink, quit. When I go home for dinner, it's lighter, but it's very free, and I relax while eating.
Return to the original and stay away from the "workplace circle".
What does it look like to be a human being in the workplace? We need the workplace, but it doesn't mean that we love the workplace; The unit we are in is not necessarily the most suitable for us.
Teacher Chen Guo said: "Loneliness is the most primitive and authentic state. After leaving the mother's body, man has never been physically with anyone again. ”After knowing your true nature, and then looking at the workplace, you will find that you are unofficial and light.
Get involved in the workforce again, and you don't need it unless you have a pitiful pension and want to continue earning a living.
Wang Anshi, the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, lived in Jiangning after retreating.
Su Dongpo specially came to visit Wang Anshi, and the two of them wrote poems and played together.
After the separation, Su Dongpo wrote a letter, hoping that Wang Anshi would recommend Qin Guan, a talented man and student. But Wang Anshi politely refused.
After all, Wang Anshi has connections and prestige in the workplace, but he doesn't want to continue to get too close to his old colleagues.
Nowadays, many retired people like to greet their former colleagues, hoping that their relatives and friends, or the children of relatives and friends, will be taken care of.
Old colleagues will also respond to you by saying "yes". But obviously perfunctory.
From the bottom of your heart, if you give up the workplace, that is the real retirement, otherwise you will just retire formally, and you will be unwilling, which is too uncomfortable.
Be content and happy, and stay away from the "wealth circle".
Too many people can be late bloomers.
Especially Jiang Ziya, who is actually over seventy years old, can still assist King Wu of Zhou and establish the Zhou Dynasty.
He wrote the "Art of War" and was famous for his fishing.
In ** "Feng Shen Bang", Jiang Ziya is even more powerful, and he can be a god after saving the people of Limin.
Don't be in a hurry to imitate Jiang Ziya, people are also the "only" in the world. You can't learn it.
We need to distinguish between what is a high-probability event and what is a low-probability event. And know to know what they are doing, and to which category they fall into.
The ancients said: "One foot in life, not one zhang." ”Mr. Lu Xun pointed out: "Time is very precious to me, and it is a kind of wealth from the perspective of economics. ”
Yes, to cherish the rest of your life is to keep your wealth.
When you keep your time to yourself, you put your wealth in your own hands. If not, you follow a group of people and toss around, you may not make any money, and you will lose money and lose time.
If you are a contented person, you will find that you have a pension, and you can have more than enough every year while saving money, which is really blessed.
At present, many people take advantage of the surplus money in the hands of the elderly to advocate investment and financial management, which is actually the majority. If you think about it, it's clear, people have the opportunity to make a fortune, why don't you seize it yourself, and give it to you? It's better to stay away from them.
Not being greedy is a sum of money in itself.
Husband and wife hold hands and stay away from the "circle of children".
When you retire, do you want to take care of your grandchildren, or do you retire in the old house yourself?
No matter which way you choose, you must adhere to this point of view: bringing a baby is help, not a long-term life; You also have the right to refuse to take the baby; Don't take the truth of raising children to prevent old age too seriously.
If you want to live a good life, you have to stay away from your children and leave some care.
Relationships need to be maintained, and the best way is to "be okay with each other".
The old man is in his hometown, and he is safe, and his children are relieved when they go out; The old man was relieved that the children were mixing well outside. **A family that is together, trivial things, will be seen clearly, which will lead to conflicts.
In fact, whether the relationship between parents and children is good or not, and whether they can live in the same room, depends on the faces of the daughter-in-law and son-in-law. You don't want to look at your face.
From the perspective of the family, what is really worth winning over is your wife.
Don't dislike your wife's nagging, she looks ugly and has gray hair. Because of love, two people come together and take care of each other, and they can rely on each other for the rest of their lives.
After retirement, we are all learning the wisdom of "breaking away", and choosing not to fit in is a very real embodiment.
Once, for the sake of ideals and money, I looked for like-minded people everywhere, and also shook hands with those who chased interests.
Now, in order to enjoy time for yourself, you can just follow who you are.
At the end of the day, you'll find that the best relationship is no relationship.
The circle is smaller, the people are less, and the loneliness is beautiful.