I have read such a sentence: "One person is a dragon, and three people are a worm." ”
Many people like to highlight the role of the individual and expect to be extraordinary. It wasn't until I was old that I realized that no matter how capable I was, I still couldn't fight a group, and I had to rely on social groups.
Vegetables are grown by others, clothes and pants are made by others, houses are built by others, you have to find a doctor when you are sick, and you have nothing to do to find someone to play mahjong. How can anyone be truly alone?
Therefore, we have to learn to live in groups. Even if you don't like this society, you must at least have a decent family.
There is a saying that there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure.
In a good family, the elderly are happy, the children are filial, and the grandchildren are sunny.
Turn every family member into the best person, and the family will be even better. With this in mind, we must reject the "waste pension" and stick to it for a long time.
Raising the elderly as young people is the attitude that children should have.
Mom, don't ask if you don't understand. ”
Dad, that's my laptop, don't move. ”
Look at you, you're all seventy or eighty, why do you want to do so much? ”
Ask yourself, as a child, have you ever said these words?
Children are middle-aged, they are very busy every day, and if they can take care of their work, they can't take care of their home; Manage children's learning, but neglect the education of parents.
Looking at the parents this won't, that won't, it's really irritating. If you want to teach your parents to do something, I don't think it's necessary.Old man, watch the children at home, go to pick up the children to and from school, dance square dances, sit at the card table, and the days are over. As for what the times have become, what dreams the old man still has, forget it.
If an elderly person who has lost his partner wants to fall in love, his children will immediately become nervous. First, I am worried that my parents will be deceived and the money will flow into the pockets of outsiders; Second, it is absolutely old and me, which is very embarrassing.
In the show "Speak Freely", the young man Du Lin knew that his mother Yang Shuhua was in love, and the object was Liu.
Du Lin tried to prevent his mother from being with Liu. The reason is that Liu is still young, his mother is in her sixties, and her age is not appropriate, and she is suspected of cheating money. Moreover, Liu and his mother have not been in love for a long time, so they talk about marriage, and their intentions are difficult to determine.
Mother Yang Shuhua believes that love is free, and if the children are desperately opposed, they can only not interact with each other.
The guests present believed that Dohrin was biased and ignored his mother's right to choose.
As a bystander, it is not difficult to find that there is a big gap between the cognition of children and the cognition of parents. Many children like to use their own subjective attitude to "standardize" their parents' words and deeds, and parents can only be passive.
Confucius said, "Lust is difficult." If there is something, **obey it; There is wine and food, and Mr. Food, did you think it was filial piety? ”The times have changed, and parents no longer worry about food and clothing, but they have been abandoned by the times, with a sad face。For example, if you don't know how to use a smartphone, you don't know what the Internet is, and you can't use the online platform to help you travel.
Consciously help parents keep up with the times, find the value of life, understand more about their parents' "strange" behavior, and be less opposed, and be filial piety.
It is the self-discipline that the elderly should have.
I have read such a sentence: "The greatest pain of the old man is that he knows that he is old and useless." ”Watching something unpleasant happen in the family, knowing that it is difficult for children to live, but there is nothing they can do. At this time, the old man feels that he is a burden to the family, not an elder.
In this life, it is better to rely on heaven and earth than on oneself.
As a parent, you should have your own life plan, if your children support it, it is a good thing, if your children do not support it, then "go it alone".
When parents insist on chasing their dreams, their children still have to support them in the end. After all, blood relatives can't be separated.
There is an old man named Yin Yufeng, who began to learn painting at the age of 74 and held a personal exhibition at the age of 76. She spent two years demonstrating the spirit of "starting again today".
Yin Yufeng was born in Dongkou County, Hunan Province, and lived in Xinjiang for a long time. Her daughter Zhang Ping is a painter, so her mother took the initiative to join the painting team.
Now, the old man is well-known in the industry and has published his own collection of paintings.
I like these lyrics: "In the darkest part of my life, I pulled myself out of the abyss." Without that person, I'll be that person. ”Really don't trust too much in the truth of "sometimes there must be in life, and there is no time in life to ask", the purpose of accepting fate is to recognize fate, and then change fate, never resigned to fate.
Positive people and old people are the most beautiful sunset red; The decadent old man, who just sighed in the sunset, then entered the night.
Chasing dreams, building a beautiful family, doing good deeds, and doing what you can to change yourself, there are still countless springs in life.
A happy family is empathetic.
There is a psychological term called "empathy". In other words, everyone has to understand from the other's point of view.
Zifei fish, the joy of Anchi fish? This is a very common practice, and the practice of happiness is "I am a fish, so I know the joy of fish".
In the family, everyone thinks from the other's point of view, and most problems can be solved.First, as a parent, understand the difficulties of your children and rely on yourself to provide for the elderly. Pensions, savings, houses, etc., are all there, and the old man has the final say on what he wants to do. Poetry and distance have always been there, and you can chase them at any time.
Perhaps, many ideas are meaningless, but as long as you are happy, they have meaning.
Second, as children, they know what their parents need and create conditions for them to pursue their dreams.
Parents should not immediately oppose what they want to do, but should talk calmly and discuss its feasibility. Perhaps, a lot of worries are unnecessary.
Create a little convenience for your parents, and your parents will be grateful. After all, spiritual encouragement is better than a lot of gifts, and it is more tangible than giving money.
The biggest regret in life is to spend it all the time.
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Love what you can love, love what you can go, go happily, and do what you want to do right away. Don't be limited to age, don't be stuck in yourself. Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.