Those moments when I was driven crazy by a child
Adolescence is like the morning sun, warm and bright, illuminating the way forward; Like a rainbow after the rain, gorgeous and colorful, decorating the ordinary life; Like the starry sky on a summer night, it is bright and mysterious, inspiring infinite imagination of the future. Adolescence is the transition period for a child from a child to an adult. At this stage, children experience dramatic physical and psychological changes, and they begin to explore themselves, challenge parental authority, and pursue independence and freedom. Children are growing up, parents are aging, adolescent children are menopause parents, this period can be a nightmare, and many parents are often "driven crazy" by their children.
The mood of adolescent children is like a June day, which changes when it is said. One second the sky was clear, and the next second it was cloudy, lightning and thunder. They often get angry over a trivial matter, or suddenly fall silent, leaving their parents scratching their heads. Their faces always say "I've grown up, I don't need you to care", but when they encounter difficulties, they will be as helpless and vulnerable as children.
Adolescent children always have their own set of theories, and no matter what their parents say, they have reasons to refute them. They think they have understood everything and don't need the guidance and advice of their parents. They often challenge their parents' authority and try to justify their views. This makes parents feel helpless and powerless, and they don't know how to communicate with their children.
Adolescent children are always curious and yearning for the outside world, and they want to explore more possibilities and try different things. They begin to pursue their hobbies, participate in various activities, and make different friends. This can cause parents to feel worried and uneasy, fearing that their children will be ill influenced or in danger.
However, despite the annoyance and confusion that adolescent children can cause for parents, we must not forget that this period is very important for children. They are going through dramatic physical and psychological changes and need our understanding and support. As parents, we should try to build a good communication and trust relationship with our children, respect their choices and decisions, and also give them appropriate guidance and advice.
First of all, adolescent children usually have a lot of thoughts and feelings, and they need someone to listen and understand them. When your child talks to you, listen carefully to their thoughts and feelings and don't interrupt or criticize them.
Secondly, children who grow up usually have their own privacy, the diary that is quietly hidden, the ** taken with friends on the mobile phone, and the chat history on social software are all small secrets that they care about and do not want to disclose, respect their privacy, and do not try to snoop or interfere in their personal lives. If you want to get to know your child, you can talk to him or her that you are someone they can trust and that they can confide in you about their problems and concerns.
Again, adolescent children usually have a lot of different ideas and opinions, their minds are active and imaginative, and they have infinite expectations and imaginations for things. Parents need to be open-minded, respect their ideas and opinions, and don't try to force them to accept your ideas.
Finally, find common interests and hobbies with your children in life, you can like the same song, watch the same movie, play ball together, make the relationship closer, try not to criticize and blame them, don't let them feel hurt, and try to solve problems with them.
In conclusion, better communication with adolescent children requires patience and understanding from parents. By listening to their thoughts and feelings, respecting their privacy, building trust, keeping an open mind, finding common interests, and avoiding criticism and accusations, you can build better communication with your child.
In this process, we may encounter many difficulties and challenges, but we cannot give up. Because we are the closest people to our children, we have a responsibility to help them through this. We must believe that with our company and support, children will be able to grow up healthily and become independent, confident and responsible people. Adolescence is the only way for children to grow up, and it is also the only way for parents to grow.