When men are faced with the question of choosing to marry who they love or love themselves, they are often entangled and confused. It's a conundrum about emotional trade-offs and life choices, and everyone has their own answers and reasons.
For women who choose to marry their lovers, men may think that love is the foundation of marriage, and only by truly loving a woman can they experience the ups and downs of life with her for a long time. They believe that as long as two people love each other, they can overcome all difficulties. They are willing to give everything for this love, including sacrificing their freedom, time, and money. However, if you choose to marry a woman who loves you, a man may have a different idea. They believe that marriage is a responsibility and commitment, and marrying a woman who loves them can bring them more security and stability. Such a woman will take care of herself, care for herself, and make herself feel the warmth and happiness of home. They may not be so passionate, but they will have a plain and real relationship that allows the two to rely on and support each other. 
Whichever way you choose, you need to take into account your feelings and values. Men need to think seriously about what they want, whether they are pursuing true love or looking for security? Do you want to spend your life with someone you love, or do you want to enjoy bland happiness with someone who loves you? Ultimately, no matter what the man chooses, he is responsible for his own decisions. No matter which way you choose, you need to cherish the person in front of you and manage your marriage with your heart in order to make your husband and wife live happily and for a long time.