Although it is often said that having children is the same, during pregnancy, families and elders are still curious about the sex of the fetus. Some people want to be boys, others prefer girls, and sometimes they argue about it.
In the eyes of young people, there is no difference between boys and girls, they are the treasures of the family and the objects of love. However, older generations tend to still hold the patriarchal view that boys and girls are different in life and in all respects, and not just because of tradition"Raising children to prevent old age"Thought.
When Huihui was pregnant, her family repeatedly emphasized that both men and women were acceptable, which made her feel warm and that her in-laws were not patriarchal. After the birth of the daughter, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a harmonious relationship and take care of the child together. However, when her daughter was two years old, her mother-in-law began to bring up the topic of having a second child from time to time.
Huihui originally had no plans for a second child, but under the pressure of her in-laws, she finally decided to have a second child. Luckily, she gave birth to a boy again, much to the delight of her in-laws. This made her realize that whether the first child was a boy or a girl did affect the attitude of the elderly towards the second child.
So, when it comes to whether the "first child" is a boy or a girl, there are indeed certain differences. If the first child is a son, then the pressure to have a second child may be relatively small; And if the first child is a daughter, it may be difficult for some families to avoid being urged to have a second child.
Secondly, the difference between raising sons and daughters is also quite obvious. These differences are mainly reflected in two aspects: the method of education and the cost of education.
First of all, from the perspective of educational methods, the difference between educating sons and educating daughters is obvious. Although parents are equally loving for their sons, they tend to be more demanding of boys' education. In the process of education, the attitudes of parents may vary, with both caring and strict requirements.
However, in the process of raising a daughter,"Coax"often than"Criticism"It is more common because the emotional world of girls is richer, and too harsh discipline can be counterproductive. By the time their daughter reaches adolescence, the parents' worries have multiplied: they worry that she will fall into a relationship too soon, that she will become rebellious, and even that she will meet a bad partner in the future.
In addition, there is a significant difference in the cost of raising a son and a daughter. Although as the saying goes"Poor children, rich daughters", but daughters don't necessarily spend less than sons. Take shopping for clothes, what girl doesn't have a closet full of clothes? As for boys, three or four sets of changes of clothes are sufficient.
Traditionally, girls tend to have higher education and living costs than boys, including the cost of various tutoring and interest classes. In addition, the cost of a woman's future marriage is also higher. Take Aunt Sun and Aunt Liu as examples, the former has two daughters, and the latter has two sons. In the past, it was widely believed that families with sons would live happily ever after, while families with daughters might face loneliness.
In Aunt Sun's home, the light of education shone brightly. She stays home full-time and devotes herself to the upbringing of her two daughters, both of whom have lived up to expectations and become excellent college students. Today, one daughter holds a management position in the workplace, while the other is on her own and running her own business. The two ladies often invite Aunt Sun and her husband to live in the city to share the joy of family, and even travel together on holidays to enjoy the beauty of life.
But Aunt Liu's family story is very different. Her two sons have also completed their studies and have stable jobs. However, they are still unmarried, and they are all trapped by the problem of "marriage room". Aunt Liu tried her best to solve the problem of the first house for her eldest son, and his marriage seemed to see the light of day. However, the second son's "marriage room" is still nowhere to be found, which makes Aunt Liu feel pressured.
In modern society, a common question faced by many families is: is it better to have a boy or a girl? Although it is often said that men and women are equal, is this really the case? This is indeed a matter of opinion, as every family's experiences and expectations are different.
Taking Aunt Liu's family as an example, she and her wife are still working hard for the down payment of their second son's wedding house, and although they are old, they still cannot enjoy retirement. Years of hard work have made their faces look particularly haggard and old. They knew in their hearts that only when their two sons were married would they be able to get rid of this heavy burden.
Each family has its own unique circumstances and challenges in this regard. Some families may feel that a boy brings more warmth, while others think that a daughter is more caring. Whatever the answer, we must acknowledge that every family has its own happiness and pain, and these feelings often depend on the individual's values and life experiences.
For parents, whether their children are male or female, it is important to give them love, companionship and correct guidance to nurture them to grow and become talents. Seeing that their children are excellent, parents are full of gratification.