Hello everyone, I am the granddaughter of a grandmother. Often, grandparents are very doting on their grandchildren, and when they hear their children say, "Grandma is the best, she is the best grandma in the world."
However, the mother is always the closest person to the child. When they grow up, children become dependent on their mothers, which makes some grandmothers feel alienated. Aunt Liu has been taking care of her grandson since he was born, playing with him and cooking for him. At that time, the grandson was especially close to her, always asking her to hug her, and even sometimes refusing his mother. At night, he always slept with his grandmother and followed her all day. People in the community praise their relationship.
Aunt Liu found that as the child grew up, he became closer to his mother and no longer slept with his grandmother or let her hold him. Even though the grandmother gave a lot to the child when she was a child, the child seems to love the mother more when she grows up. This disappointed Aunt Liu, who thought that her grandmother's love was not as powerful as her mother's words. This shift has also upset some people, because grandma used to be the closest person to the child.
The intimacy between a child and his mother is unmatched by any relationship. Although children may become dependent on the length of time they spend together, as they grow, their feelings for their mother are unique.
As children grow up, they begin to develop their own sense of independence, and their dependence on their parents gradually decreases. However, the love and security given by the mother cannot be replaced by other relatives in the family, so the child will become closer to the mother. The mother's companionship is like a warm sunshine, bringing endless comfort to the child.
On the other hand, the mother's position in the child's heart always occupies the first place. A survey on the ranking of family members in children's minds shows that children tend to be the mother's first choice, followed by the grandmother, then the father, followed by the grandmother, the grandfather and the grandfather.
No matter how old a child gets, deep down, their relationship with their parents is always the closest and stronger. This connection transcends blood ties and even beyond love for grandparents. As children grow up, the guidance and teaching of their parents is an indispensable pillar for them.
In fact, if the mother is personally involved in the child's upbringing, then the child's attachment and closeness to the mother cannot be replaced by anyone else. This natural emotional bond comes from the mother's ten months of pregnancy and the hardships of childbirth.
Therefore, there is no need to compete for the love of the child for the mother. Because this kind of love is the innate instinct of children, and it is an emotion that is constantly abandoned.
Each loved one in a child's heart has a unique position and cannot be replaced;The emotions of the mother and the grandmother have their own characteristics and do not conflict. In the company of the mother, the child enjoys a warm and happy childhood;Under the care of grandma, children experience happy growth. When they grow up, the child has a deep affection for his grandmother, loves the food she cooks, and misses the summer fan. Therefore, children raised by their grandmothers have many fond childhood memories.
Indeed, the depth of family affection comes from long-term companionship. If the mother is away from home for a long time, the child becomes a left-behind child. Although the child still loves his mother deeply in his heart, resentment also quietly grows. When they grow up**, their rebellious hearts may become stronger. Therefore, no matter how busy parents are, they should take out precious time to spend with their children's growth.