Like someone, you don't need to hide; Hates a person, but is often hidden.
When he was young, he plunged headlong into the social scene, had multiple friends and multiple paths, and treated his relatives well with a way back. Many people who originally didn't know each other have become friends because of work and life.
When we enter old age, a lot of social interaction is gone. Especially when I just retired, the friends of interests are all broken.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said: "A person's moral foundation is good, and his life will be very stable. ”People with good character have a very warm heart and a very peaceful life; In a relationship, if each other's character is good, they can have a long-term relationship, and the relationship can last until the end of life, and even affect the next generation.
Many relationships, intertwined with interests, are incomprehensible. Interests are like a thin veil, very hazy.
When people get old, their interests are gone, so the relationship is also transparent. Being able to contact your relatives and friends at the following times is reliable.
When you are sick, greet your person and show that he is giving you hope and courage.
In Lu Xun's pen, there is a playmate named Runtu.
When they were children, they caught sparrows together with a dustpan.
When Lu Xun went out for many years, he returned to his hometown. Runtu came to visit him with his children and called him "Master".
Many people think that their feelings have stopped here, and the level of people is very different.
In fact, the love between Lu Xun and Runtu has always been there. The Yan Tu family was very poor, but he always remembered that he wanted to send something to Lu Xun to continue his love. When the two of them were ten years old, they also climbed the Yingtian Pagoda together and went to Tao Erfeng to measure words.
When Runtu was seriously ill, he told his family to send some green beans to Lu Xun, and his family received a lot of favors from Lu Xun and needed to reciprocate.
When people are old, illness is the threshold and symptom of life and death. The most needed person to accompany you.
Many relatives and friends will rush to hear the news, but most of them will send a red envelope, put down a little fruit, and leave. There are very few people who can accompany and chat, comfort the soul, and take care of them.I've seen a message. A group of classmates from Xuanhan, Sichuan, drove thousands of miles to a hospital in Jiangyin, Jiangsu Province, to visit Qin Hao, who was suffering from cancer. This feeling is moving, and it encourages Qin Hao that he must work hard and live, so that there is hope for the family.
When you are sick, those who try their best to accompany you on a ride can truly be called "friends of life and death". No matter what kind of work he does, what the impression he gives to outsiders, at least in front of you, he is a reliable character.
When you lose your partner, the person who comes to you means that he wants to help you drive away the "loneliness".
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "As the years go by, we gradually realize how much we love you, and how much effort I am willing to spend on arranging for you." ”Generally speaking, we think that as long as we have a wife, we will arrange everything for ourselves. Even my wife thought about how you should live after you passed away.
In fact, after losing a partner, what a person really needs is not only money and a house, but also a companionship. Every day, there is nothing around me, and there is a lack of a lot of laughter and laughter, which is difficult to adapt.
After my grandfather passed away, my grandmother was very unaccustomed to it.
Aunt Zhang from the village said, "Why don't you come to live at my house?" ”
Grandma lived at Aunt Zhang's house for a long time. After that, I moved to live with my aunt.
When my aunt wanted to calculate the food expenses, Aunt Zhang said: "The rice is grown by home, and the vegetables can't be eaten, so if you count the money, you will treat me as an outsider." ”
If you look closely, after some elderly people lose their wives, the neighbors on the left and right like to invite the elderly to dinner and go out for a walk. There are also some relatives who came over to talk and have a meal. This emotion can't be bought with money.There is also a special case.
After the old man lost his wife, his former friend of the opposite sex took the initiative to show affection, hoping to tie the knot. Halfway couple, also very sweet. On the way to get old, take another ride, and time is precious.
A person who is willing to borrow money when he is destitute shows that he is helping you regardless of return.
The elderly have become very poor, either because they did not have savings or a pension when they were young, or because they fell ill.
Lending money to the elderly is risky. To put it bluntly, the elderly may not be able to pay back the money before they pass away, and their descendants may not necessarily admit it.
Lending money to the elderly alone will be rejected by many relatives and friends. After all, everyone will think about the issue of repaying the money, just don't say it.
I really want to borrow money, and I also need the old man's children to guarantee it, so that I can "repay the debt of the father and the son".
As the saying goes, "When you talk about money, you see character." ”
People who are willing to lend money to the elderly have a higher character than many people, and their affection is difficult to reciprocate.
Before his death, my second uncle borrowed more than 20,000 yuan from a friend. And no IOUs were written.
When my friend learned the news of his second uncle's death, he was so sad that he gave him a gift money, but he didn't say a word about borrowing money.
Five years after my second uncle's death, the money was returned by my cousin.
It's clear how people interact with each other.
Something similar happened in history. For example, Zhu Yuanzhang was in his hometown, several relatives passed away in a short period of time, and there was no money for burial, so Liu Jizu, a local rich man, vacated a piece of land and sent some money to deal with it properly.
From Liu Jizu's point of view, it is to lend money to Zhu Yuanzhang, and he has no intention of coming it back, which is a kindness. His character deserves our praise.
Talking about money is not the preserve of young people, and older people also talk about money. It's just that when people are old, it will be difficult to talk about money with relatives and friends, and they will be left out as soon as they open their mouths.
Some people say: "The cold knows the pine and cypress, and the adversity sees the truth." ”has faded away from the prosperity of life, and there are still people who will love you, the love is the most rare, and the character is the most valuable.
Therefore, when the elderly meet relatives and friends with good character, they should not be unappreciative, do not put on a posture of "elders", and know how to be grateful.
When you meet a patient, don't dislike it, and sympathize with each other.
If you lose your wife, don't be discouraged, the mood is sunny and lovely.
Life is in distress, don't complain, help each other through difficulties.
There are not all good people in the world, and not all bad people. Whoever you are, you will meet whomever you are.
Once, people respected a foot, and later, people respected a foot.