In the world of love, loyalty and trust are like solid cornerstones, and if these cornerstones are shaken, even the strongest emotional structure can collapse overnight. When love is betrayed, every couple who were once like glue may be forced to face an emotional storm.
For many women, this act of showing mercy outside of marriage is undoubtedly a sudden thunderbolt from the sky, which caught them off guard and made their hearts ache so much that they couldn't breathe.
But you know what? A man's betrayal is often not something that happens overnight. The seeds of betrayal often take root and sprout quietly in the trivial life of day after day. Maybe it's those neglected anniversaries, maybe it's those reasons for no-pickups and late returns, or maybe it's those seemingly insignificant indifference and distance.
When a man's heart is no longer in you, there will be these few traces, obviously.
1. I don't go home at night, and I am often alone with the opposite sex
Have you noticed that the man who used to come home on time has been staying up all night lately for various reasons? He said it was overtime, it was socializing, it was a gathering of friends, but do you really believe it?
A man's time and energy are limited, and if he is frequently alone with the opposite sex, or even stays up all night, then you should be wary.
Do you remember Yan Shouyi in the movie "Mobile Phone"? He and Shen Xue were originally a model couple, but when his relationship with Wu Yue gradually warmed up, he began to frequently find excuses not to go home. At first, he would make up some reasons to prevaricate, but later, he didn't even bother to find excuses. This is a clear sign that a man is showing affection outside of marriage.
Second, the transfer of money and becoming stingy
Men often have a transfer of money after extramarital affection. He may suddenly become stingy and no longer spend money on you as generously as he used to. He may find various reasons to reduce household expenses or shift his income elsewhere.
It's not that he doesn't love you anymore, it's that his heart has been split in half, one for you and the other for the woman outside of marriage. Naturally, his money can't belong to just the two of you like before.
3. Ignoring the family, casually talking about divorce
When a man is extramarital, he may become more and more family-oriented. He no longer cares about the trivial matters at home, and he no longer cares about your feelings. Even, he will casually talk about divorce, as if he has lost confidence in this marriage.
It's not that he really wants a divorce, it's that his heart has been shaken. He found new emotional sustenance outside of marriage and began to doubt the value and meaning of the marriage. At this time, divorce may have become a relief for him.
Of course, these signs are not absolute, and everyone's situation will be different. But if you notice these signs in your man, then you have to be wary. Perhaps, he didn't show mercy outside of marriage, but there is a problem between you that needs to be communicated and resolved.
In the face of men's betrayal, women often feel helpless and lost. But remember, you have to be strong in the face of the outcome, no matter what the outcome. You have to believe in your own worth and believe in your choices.
If he really betrays you, then be brave enough to step out of this shadow and start a new life. If he is only temporarily lost, then give him a chance, and also give himself a chance, to rediscover the love he once had.
In closing, I would like to say that love is wonderful, but it is also fraught with challenges. We must cherish it, take care of it, and at the same time have the courage to face its changes. Only in this way can we truly have a happy love.
May everyone who wanders in love find their own happiness. May everyone who struggles with marriage find the courage to start over. Because, love is worth everything we have to give for.