After re-examining "Ode to Joy", I deeply felt that Qiu Yingying, who disgusted me at the beginning, is actually the most lamenting character in the play. Qiu Yingying, who lost her wealth and feelings under the fraud of Director Bai, faced with the cynicism of her sisters, finally got together with her fellow villager Yingqin, but because of Qu Xiaoxuan's intervention, the relationship reached an impasse, and was finally abandoned by Yingqin because of her non-** identity. The outside world is pouring in accusations against her, does she really deserve it? Was Qiu Yingying's loss really voluntary?
Looking closely at the relationship between him and Director Bai, during the ambiguous period, Qiu Yingying was just the spare tire of Director Bai. One night, Director Bai's late-night invitation text message appeared like a ghost, and the temptation was revealed. Fan Shengmei, as a veteran of the love field, sees through it at a glance. If Guan Juer didn't say much, maybe everything would be different. However, the transmission of information became the fuse for Qiu Yingying's life transition.
Qu Xiaoxuan's seduction and the stimulation of information made the relationship between Qiu Yingying and Director Bai heat up rapidly, and the matter of living together broke off the friendship with her roommate. However, is all this really Qiu Yingying's willingness? In the elevator room where Qu Xiaoxuan and Qiu Yingying are equal, Qiu Yingying's expression is dull, like a torn doll, what kind of secret is hidden in this? There is a vague concept in that world called "gray **", and is Qiu Yingying in it without knowing it? In the case of a powerless resistance, can this really be counted as "**? Some people compare it to the "sister" of **.
Once, a Zhihu blogger shared a true story: Xiao Li got together with a group of people, and everyone talked about life, ideals and love until about 4 o'clock in the morning. A girl said firmly to Xiao Li: "We have been together for a long time, and now it is no big deal to sleep together on the mattress." ”
However, what happened next made the girl feel deeply ashamed. When Xiao Li was half-asleep and half-awake, she felt someone groping under the blanket, but she chose to be silent, just afraid of waking up others. It all happened naturally, but afterwards she felt extremely ashamed.
Psychologist Heather Littleton analyzes this scenario in depth. She pointed out that there is a "mental map" within the human mind that helps us react in different situations. For example, we say hello when we meet acquaintances and look for water when we are thirsty. In the same way, ** criminals have their fixed "narrative". Because ** tends to focus only on those cases where violent means are used, and ignore the truth under the tip of the iceberg. And this gray ** often happens between acquaintances.
When Qiu Yingying moved in with a white scumbag, she simply wanted to share the rent. Due to her lack of experience in relationships, she doesn't know a lot about things. We can't speculate on Qiu Yingying's mentality just by the hidden rules of society. In fact, many girls don't know the deeper meaning of staying overnight at a boy's house. When Qiu Yingying accepted his invitation to go on a date, their relationship was already a further possibility.
For many girls who are not deeply involved in the world, they may not think of this. They simply thought that living together would allow them to see each other more often. So, in this relationship, did the white scumbag ever force Qiu Yingying? From the initial temptation to success, many times girls are actually powerless to resist, which is mainly restricted by the environment and their cognitive range. Qiu Yingying's "loss" experience occurred under the compulsion of Director Bai, which is basically certain.
This experience had a profound impact on her married life and even led to the brink of a second relationship. I have to admit that for Qiu Yingying's situation, for women, the pressure and expectations of society are indeed cruel.
Before I wrap up this article, I would like to offer some reflections. Women tend to be more likely to let their guard down from acquaintances, but it also makes them more vulnerable. Many "hurt" incidents often occur in our circle of acquaintances. Therefore, there are many so-called "rules" in society, such as that when you accept a guy's invitation to go on a date, it means that you agree to further develop a relationship with him. However, this series of "rules" is both unfair and wrong for women. So, what do you think?