In 2002, Sun Li sponsored a young man named Xiang HaiqingFor 4 years, she has been following his growth and development.
But I didn't expect that in 2006,Xiang Haiqing only relied on a 6,000-word essay to eat away at his former benefactor.
What did Sun Li do to make a college student who had been favored for 4 years so indignant?
In 2001, Sun Li learned about the plight of rural children through a program called "Hope in the Mountain Village". At the time, she was not wealthy enough to donate money at will, but she still chose to help them in her own way. She approached the show's producer and asked for someone to accept the donation, and began to help him with $500 a month for living expenses.
At first, the act seemed to be going well, but when Xiang Haiqing, who was funded, went to college, Sun Li noticed that he began to ask for more and more funds. Sun Li was very puzzled, how could a student who had just entered college grow so fastIn order to clarify the situation, Sun Li specially contacted Xiang Haiqing's classmates.
Classmates revealed that Xiang Haiqing has indeed spent a lot of money recently, often inviting guests to dinner and buying a lot of brand-name clothes. After realizing the seriousness of the problem, Sun Li thought twice about what to do, and she understood that if she continued to fund unconditionally, it would only fuel Xiang Haiqing's dependence. So Sun Li stopped funding him, and she hoped that Xiang Haiqing could learn to face the difficulties of life independently.
After Xiang Haiqing learned that Sun Li had stopped funding, he was very angry, so he wrote a letter of 6,000 words. Xiang Haiqing claimed in the letter that Sun Li had not fulfilled her original promise and had terminated the subsidy after only two years, and Xiang Haiqing expressed his dissatisfaction in the letter, saying that the monthly living expenses of 500 yuan were not enough in Shanghai.
According to Xiang Haiqing's description, Sun Li promised him that she would sponsor him until he graduated from college, and that he could contact him at any time if needed. However, Sun Li abruptly suspended funding in 2005, causing Xiang Haiqing to fall into financial difficulties. Xiang Haiqing said that Sun Li's living expenses were far from enough to live in Shanghai, and he asked Sun Li for help many times to no avail, feeling deceived and abandoned.
The 6,000-word letter was subsequently published by a journalist and caused a strong reaction on the Internet. Despite the use of a pseudonym, many netizens quickly recognized the popular actress in the letter as Sun Li herself. Subsequently, the fierce attacks against Sun Li hit like a tide. Many people invariably stood on the side of Xiang Haiqing, a vulnerable group, and denounced Sun Li for hypocrisy and lack of affection.
For a time, words such as "hypocrisy" and "stinginess" appeared frequently, and Sun Li was condemned by a large number of netizens. Even the units that had agreed to cooperate terminated the cooperation, which dealt a serious blow to Sun Li's acting career. But also.
Many people disagreed with Xiang Haiqing's statement, believing that he was too demanding of Sun Li and that he did not fully realize his responsibility.
This incident quickly aroused widespread concern in the society, and people's evaluation of Xiang Haiqing was mixed. Some people think that he does not know how to repay the kindness"White-eyed wolf"Others criticized him for being hedonistic and irresponsible. In the end, the truth of the matter was revealed by Xiang Haiqing's classmates, it turned out that Xiang Haiqing was not really without money, and his living situation was far beyond people's imagination.
It is understood that in addition to Sun Li's funding, Xiang Haiqing also received a grant from the school and additional teaching subsidies, and he can get 6,000 yuan a year. Moreover, he often buys expensive clothes and enjoys a luxurious lifestyle. These are all facts that Xiang Haiqing did not mention in the online rumors, and Xiang Haiqing's behavior has been severely criticized by the public.
What's even more shocking is that Xiang Haiqing used his poverty status to gain sympathy and fabricate lies. This undoubtedly insulted Sun Li's goodwill and caused condemnation from netizens. In the face of accusations, Sun Li did not choose to attack Xiang Haiqing, but called on people to give care to vulnerable groups, which is awe-inspiring.
Many accuse him of a lack of respect for charitable activities and even use the kindness of others to satisfy personal desires. In this context, the famous writer Han Han also expressed his views on social **. In this article, Han Han points out that Xiang Haiqing is not a person who really needs help, he is a selfish person who deceives other people's feelings.
Under the influence of this turmoil, Sun Li chose to remain silent, not wanting the outside world to pay too much attention to the student's private life. On the contrary, she is more focused on promoting the development of education and public welfare, hoping to help more children who really need support.
According to common sense, this should have been a touching good thing, but it turned into a lose-lose ending afterwards. Xiang Haiqing was criticized by netizens for his public letters, and he had to take a year off from school, and after graduation, he could not get a good company in Shanghai, so he could only return to his hometown to work. Netizens questioned him for being ungrateful, shameless and selfish. This accident undoubtedly became a stumbling block to his future.
On the other hand, Sun Li was also deeply disappointed, she no longer dared to fund others alone, but showed her love through charity, which was very cautious. This turmoil made her understand that casual charity could lead to burn herself, but she did not give up her original intention of doing good. The kindness of others is not something that should be taken for granted, let alone something that is easy to come by, and if you receive a favor today, you should learn to repay it in the future.
The relationship between people is complex and changeable, and while we help others, we must also judge the situation and be cautious in our words and actions. When you receive help from others, you should not take it for granted, but know how to be grateful. Only when both parties uphold humility and sincerity can they do good deeds and get twice the result with half the effort and let positive energy be promoted in the world.
The lesson of this incident is that although it is beautiful to do good, it also needs to be cautious, and although gratitude is difficult, it is a moral high ground. I hope that there will be more tolerant and wise doers in society, and I hope that those who have been helped will have more virtues of gratitude and reciprocation. Only when sincerity and wisdom are equally emphasized, the good deeds between people will be sprinkled to the earth like sunshine and nourish the best harvest.
At the same time, we should also realize that charity is not only about giving material help, but also about spiritual support and encouragement. We must learn to respect and care for those in need, so that they can feel the care and warmth of society. Only in this way can we get more people willing to participate in philanthropy and make our world a better and more hopeful place.
Charity and trust go hand in hand, we need to trust those who are truly in need, and at the same time educate them to be grateful and reciprocate. Only then can our philanthropy truly play its part and make our world a better and more hopeful place.