Recently, I saw such a **,**Dad is alone with 2 children, holding a child in his hand and sorting out something, the other child was lying on the bed crying with a red face, saidThe child's mother left her two babies and went out to work, let her husband take care of the children at home full-time, and the two children are about to collapse their father, but the most exciting part is still in the comment area.
Unexpectedly, the message in the comment areaIt wasn't sympathizing with the man, on the contrary, there is a feeling of a great reversal of the cool text.
Because it is usually women who take care of children at home, and it is also women who are prone to emotional breakdown, many full-time mothers are thought to be happy with their children at home, and now that their roles have changed, too many mothers want to express their grievances and hearts.
Netizen A: "Why does my mother leave her children behind when she goes out to work, and my father goes out to work for this family?" ”
Netizen B: "How good it is at home, the wind can't blow, the rain can't get wet,."The child sleeps, you sleep, the child eats, you eatEnjoy happiness every day, I'm tired of making money outside. ”
Netizen C: "Look at you, you don't do anything at home every day."I can't even take a child. ”
Netizen D: "my child, remember to give him 500 yuan a month for living expenses, and then for how he spent it and how much money he saved at the end of the year, after all, the expenses at home every day are not big." ”
Every sentence is classic, every sentence is heart-piercingThe jokes in the comment area are all mothersThe sad road I have walked.
Body deformation,Career interruptions, the social circle is shrinking,Lack of a sense of value, disconnected from society, neglected by family, high-intensity simple and repetitive work ......
In the past, before these women became mothers, they were also glamorous, they had their own favorite things, and they didn't need to listen to some gossipEven though he has given his time and energy to take care of his children and family, he is considered to be enjoying himself.
In the book "Kim Ji-young Born in 82", there is such a passage: "As someone else's mother and other people's wife, I sometimes feel quite happy, but sometimes I feel like I am imprisoned somewhere, and I always feel that if I cross this wall, I should be able to find an exit. ”Actually, a family should beTwo people struggle together and share togetherNo matter who is in the house or who is outside, we should recognize each other's efforts and help each other realize their self-worth.
Empathy is often on the lipsBut it's hard to empathize with things you haven't experienced.
Just like many fathers who are not personally involved in bringing the baby, most of them will feel that they are enjoying the blessing of taking the baby at home.
In a report on the anxiety index, stay-at-home mothers ranked third in anxiety, and 7 out of 10 stay-at-home moms5 want to return to the workplace.I used to be at home full-time with my children for a few years, and now I'm back in the workplaceThe biggest feeling after giving birth is that there is not much time left for me, I am emotionally unstable, and I will be more anxious and insecure about the future. Suggestion 1: Do something that makes you happy and positive.
Many times we are prone to fall into the cycle of negative emotions, the market gas on our bodies is getting heavier and heavier, our minds do not seem to be as broad as before, and our temper is not as good as before, we might as well find hobbies, spend 15-30 minutes a day, and we can revive ourselves, such as: reading a few pages of books every day, or practicing words every day, and learning to sing and ...... every dayIn short,Keeping your emotions in mind is very important and beneficial for your family relationship, parent-child relationship, and future employment.
Tip 2: Stay social.
Even if you can't meet with friends, you can also play **or** regularly, and maintain communication with the outside world, even if it is a mother with a baby, which not only helps us to calm our minds, but also ensures that our social skills will not degrade Hotspot Engine Plan
At the end, we are ourselves first, then our wives, our mothers, ......I hope that every mother, whether it is full-time at home with children, or sticking to the workplaceWe must be confident in our own dedication and value, and we must know how to love ourselves. I also hope that every father can participate in parenting, the child is never the mother alone, and the child is not helping your wife to take itA little more understanding can lead to a little less contradiction.