Friends are the light of life, daily busy things, maybe a year down, the number of contacts is very small, it seems not intimate, once needed, real friends will not hesitate to contribute their own strength, solve problems.
I have known my girlfriends for more than ten years, live their own lives together, and I can't think of contact every day, even during the holidays, I don't deliberately think of sending blessing messages.
But when I was at an important juncture in my life and gave birth to a child whose name was in danger, the first thing that came to my mind was her, and she did not hesitate to accompany me to the hospital overnight from a neighboring city.
It is undeniable that in this life, the importance of friends cannot be ignored, but it is also important to remember that close friends, to keep a proper distance, beyond the boundary, may affect the depth of the relationship.
No matter how much you trust someone or how good your relationship with someone is, there are some words that are suitable for holding in your heart and cannot be said easily.
I've seen a story:
There is a rich girl who has a very bad temper, but she has a good friend with a very gentle personality.
A rich girl has a handsome and well-matched boyfriend, which is the type that any girl will like when she sees it, and the rich girl's best friend is no exception, but because of the relationship with her best friend, she can't guess what this man is thinking, so she never dares to reveal her inner thoughts easily.
The rich girl has money but no heart, she always quarrels with her boyfriend, disagrees, makes a big fuss, moves to a friend's house, and tells her friends all the contradictions between the two and the accusations against her boyfriend.
Gradually, the girlfriend moved her mind that she shouldn't have, and felt that since the rich girl and her boyfriend often quarreled, they were destined to be inappropriate for each other, so they thought of intervening and replacing the rich girl.
Fortunately, the rich girl's boyfriend is not a person who does not distinguish between right and wrong*** at least has moral integrity, understands the suggestions and ideas of the rich girl's best friend, immediately alerts, keeps a distance from each other, and reminds the rich girl not to tell outsiders about the private affairs between the two.
Of course, not everyone and the best friend of a rich girl will care about their partner's friends, but the heart is unstoppable, and the hearts of adult men and women, like a spark rod that has been extinguished, cannot stand the test.
You can't defend your girlfriend, but you can't defend your humanity, so no matter how good the relationship is, you want to talk about things in your relationship, you should think twice, don't output words that are not suitable and easy to arouse other people's thoughts.
Don't tell the wind your secret, it will spread throughout the forest.
Relationships, like the wind, are a constant chain of connections between people, and if you tell your secret to a close friend, that friend may also tell him about the most important person in his heart.
When I was in school, I had a special relationship with a good friend. At that time, I fell in love with a boy and couldn't control the joy in my heart. While I was chatting, I told my friend the secret of my heart.
I thought my friends would keep it a secret for me, but I never expected that overnight, the whole class knew that no matter how I went, I could hear other people's whispers, discuss what kind of relationship I had with the boy I liked, and discuss what stage of my development was painful.
Although the friend later apologized, the trouble caused by this could not be remedied.
Personal privacy, unless it is rotten in your heart, never say it to anyone, once there is a loophole, you can never hide it. Just like "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Mei Mei fell in love with Wen Shizhu and gave birth to the other party's child, Princess Jinghe.
Before she died, Sister Mei told her sister Zhen Huan the secret, believing that she would keep it a secret for herself. But even when Zhen Huan wanted to kill the emperor, she still took out Mei Mei's secret as a goal to hurt the emperor.
Fortunately, it is a TV series, the screenwriter decides the direction of the plot, and the emperor is destined to close his eyes and leave, otherwise, the consequences will be unimaginable.
This is especially true in life, don't test whether human nature can stand the test, once the result makes you very sad, not only will you lose a relationship, but you will also question yourself whether you deserve a good friendship.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself afterwards, it is better to take precautions in advance and don't tell your friends about your privacy and cause unnecessary trouble.