My name is Li Jianqiang, I am 48 years old, and I work for a state-owned enterprise and hold a department-level position. I have a son named Li Gang, who is 27 years old this year. After graduating from university, he was assigned to work in a grassroots unit of a district-level agency for two years.
I feel that he is very dissatisfied with his current job, and he often complains to me that he works in a very poor environment, that the leadership does not pay attention to young people, and that he is not able to use his professional strengths in the workplace, and his career prospects seem very slim.
On several occasions, he even hinted at wanting to resign, and I know that he has a more aggressive personality and will be very decisive in executing once he has made up his mind. In fact, I also hope that he can find a better unit and environment, and I, as his parent, have the responsibility to pave the way for him.
I have worked in my old unit for many years and have a good network of contacts to help him keep an eye out for good opportunities. The other day, he brought it up to me again.
He said that he really couldn't stand the current working environment, and insisted that I help him find opportunities to transfer jobs. I advised him to be patient for a while, and I will contact some people in the next two days to see if there is a suitable position.
I'm sure you'll help me get a good job, Dad. Your unit has a lot of network resources, there must be a way. The son said with confidence. "Son, I also want to help you, but after all, I work in the state-owned enterprise system, and the scope of contact is limited.
It's not easy to find a job, and you have to be mentally prepared. I reassured. "With you, I have the confidence to succeed!I know your abilities too well, and so many people in the unit are looking at your face.
My son patted me on the shoulder and said. I nodded, although I wasn't quite sure, but seeing my son's hopeful appearance, I couldn't bear to splash him with cold water. So, I started to contact some old classmates and leaders who had a good relationship, hoping that they could help me pay attention to whether there were suitable positions around me and see if they could help introduce my son.
I have an old classmate who we used to work together for many years and have a very good relationship. He was recently transferred to work in the city, and now he is a cadre at the deputy department level.
After I mentioned this matter to him, he immediately said that he would do his best to help: "Lao Li, leave your son's affairs to me, I am recruiting young talents here, and I just need a financial management professional like your son with two years of grassroots work experience."
Your son is studying financial management and has good grades in Xi. I replied. "Okay, I happen to have a finance job opening here. You ask him to send me his resume and get ready for the interview.
When the time comes, I will tell the leader that as long as I pass the interview, there will be no problem. My old classmate said cheerfully. I happily told my son the good news, and he was so excited that he said "Thank you so much, Dad". So, he immediately struck while the iron was hot, updated a resume and sent it to me.
Seeing my son's serious preparation for the interview, I couldn't help but feel proud. I hope that this interview will go smoothly, so that my son can enter a better unit, improve the working environment, and give better play to his professional expertise.
Dad, thanks to the introduction of your classmates, my interview went so smoothly. The interviewer is the deputy director of the department, the person is very nice, and the questions asked are not very difficult.
I answered by combining my Xi experience and work experience, and he listened carefully and kept nodding his head to praise me. In the end, he said that my conditions were very suitable for this position, and asked me to wait patiently for the notice.
I think the interview result is not far from ten!"Hearing my son say this, I am sure that he will definitely pass this interview. He has excellent grades since he was a child, and he is full of energy when he grows up, and with the help of his connections, he will definitely seize such an opportunity.
Haha, great!Dad said that everything had to be done on his own, but sometimes it was the connections that were more important. In this society, you have to learn to connect with each other and win more support in order to go more smoothly. "I happily patted my son on the shoulder.
Yes, thank you for your years of accumulation in the unit, this time help me lead the way, I will not let you down!"The son was also very excited. In this way, our father and son have been looking forward to the good results of the interview.
After fifteen days, the old classmate finally replied to me, saying that the city had approved the application to recruit my son and officially issued an employment notice. I was so excited that I took my son directly to the city to sign an employment agreement and successfully joined the company.
After a month, my son is in a very good state in his new unit, and often tells me at home that the leader and colleagues get along very well, and the tasks given to him are more reasonable.
One day at dinner, he excitedly told me, "Dad, last week the boss asked me to attend an important meeting in the city, and I took care of the paperwork. At the meeting, I met many leaders from other departments, and everyone praised me for doing a good job.
The boss said that if I work harder, I will soon be promoted and reused!"Haha, that's great, son!It seems that the environment of this unit that the old classmate found you is really much stronger than the original, and you yourself quickly adapted to it. Come on, make persistent efforts, and don't live up to the leader's expectations of you. I smiled and encouraged him.
Dad, I'm going to make it!"I give my all at work every day, and I teach myself some new expertise after work. I am very satisfied with this working atmosphere and the prospects for the future.
It's all thanks to you for helping me change jobs, otherwise I might still be bored in my original unit every day!The son said gratefully. It is also very gratifying to see that he is so satisfied with his current work.
Sure enough, children's growth is inseparable from the guidance and help of parents. Sometimes, opportunities need to be opened up by some connections. In the days that followed, I would also regularly monitor my son's work.
He seems to be getting more and more engaged, often working overtime but not complaining about the hard work at all, telling me that there is a lot of harvest and growth. Until one day, I suddenly received a hurried ** from my son, asking him to hurry up and pick him up at the gate of the city**, and his voice seemed to be a little nervous.
Although I was confused, I immediately drove over. I was so shocked that I was speechless, how could this happen all of a sudden!On the rest of the road, I whispered to my son about the ins and outs of the matter while driving.
When I got home, I comforted my son not to be too anxious, the company would investigate clearly before making a decision, and would not lay off employees easily. I will try my best to contact my old classmates to see if I can help mediate the matter.
Although my son still seems a little uneasy, I am deeply concerned about whether he will be able to keep his job. As a father, it's my responsibility to fix this and not let him get into trouble.
The old classmate promised to do his best to help in **, and asked me to let my son stay at home for a few days, and he would go to learn about the company's situation. I was grateful, hung up** and told my son to wait at home for the time being, after which I would contact my old classmates again to understand the progress.
When I relayed the news to my son, he seemed relieved, but still a little uneasy. I told him that as long as he knew what to expect, the company would not fire an employee easily.
I promise to follow up on this matter personally. After that, I drove to the front of the company to pick him up from work. However, a week later, my son called me again, saying that the company had suspended him temporarily and was still investigating him.
I immediately drove there, wondering what the hell was going on all the way. When I got home, I asked him for details several times. He finally couldn't help crying, saying that the company's treasurer accused him of being involved in a number of false account incidents, and he refuted to no avail, so he could only temporarily suspend his job and wait for the results of the investigation of **.
I comforted my son and told him that the company could not fire employees at will, and that it would investigate fairly. I'll reach out to my old classmates again to see if I can coordinate a solution.
Although the son was still upset, he nodded. I contacted my old classmate again, but this time he spoke in a different tone, saying that the company's findings were really bad for my son, and even if he was willing to help, it would be difficult. Hearing the change in his tone, I panicked.
I dialed Director Ye's **, first exchanged pleasantries with him, and then seriously introduced my son's plight to him, asking him to help us solve this problem.
Director Ye was silent for a while, and then said, "Lao Li, I understand your worries as a father, but this matter is indeed a bit tricky. But we know each other, I'll do my best to help you deal with it, you let your son stay at home and be patient.
Hearing this, I breathed a sigh of relief and thanked Director Ye again and again. I also told my son that with the help of Director Ye, his problem will definitely be solved, so let's wait for the good news together.
With the help of Director Ye, my son's problem finally took a turn for the better. A week later, Director Ye told me that he had come forward to investigate the matter with my son's department, and had also interviewed the company's leaders.
After his mediation, the incident could be resolved and my son no longer had to be held responsible. I was very excited and expressed my gratitude to Director Ye in a loud voice.
I received an a** from my son and he told me that something was wrong with his job and I was very worried. I immediately called Director Ye and he helped us solve this problem again.
Without his help, my son's future could have been seriously affected. I am grateful for Mr. Yip's help and have deep admiration for his wisdom and ability.
However, a month later, my son called ** again and asked me to pick him up at work. I felt very uneasy and didn't know what was wrong. I asked my son, "What the hell is going on?"Didn't Director Ye already help you solve the problem?"I was shocked.
After hanging up**, I felt cold in my hands and my heart like a knife. I tried my best and got a lot of help to keep my son's job. However, the company still did not let him go, forced him to sign a letter of punishment, and compensated a large amount of money before reluctantly leaving.
My son and I went through his toughest days together. Looking at his sad face all day long, I also felt very guilty and heartache. After a month of torment, his emotions gradually calmed down.
One day, out of the blue, he came to me for a serious conversation. I thought he was going to ask me for advice on the future, but his opening line surprised me: "Dad, I want to move out on my own." I've figured it out a lot, but I need to face life on my own, and I can't always rely on you to solve problems. ”
In addition to the shock, I tried my best to persuade him that what he needed now was to adjust his mentality, and that the matter of living alone could be considered later. However, he was adamant, indicating that he had made up his mind.
Son, I know you've been through a lot of hardship, and I understand your feelings. As a father, I just want to do my best to take care of you and help you. You will face a lot of difficulties and pressures after moving out, why don't you live at home for a while first?
I said bitterly. "No, Dad, I really need to be independent for a while. It's not just for myself, it's for you. I want you to be relieved that you don't have to worry about me all the time.
The son's tone was very resolute. As a result, my son and I began to drift apart, intentionally or unintentionally. Occasionally, I took the initiative to look for him, and I felt that there was strangeness in his tone. I miss my son very much, but I can only give him space to get to know life and himself again.
A few months later, I suddenly received a ** from my son, and his tone was relaxed and cheerful, saying that he wanted to go out to dinner with me. I was very excited because it could be a sign that he was in a better mood.
When we met, I saw the smile on his face and it was very gratifying to me. At the dinner table, he told me that he had thought a lot during this time and looked at the past calmly.
He knew how much I cared about him, but there were some things he had to face and Xi on his own. He said, "Dad, I've always been grateful for everything you've done for me. I was in a bad mood during that time, but I have adjusted.
I will try to give you a satisfactory answer. Confidence flashed back in his eyes. I excitedly shook his hand and said to him, "Son, no matter what happens, you are my proudest son."
Let's take our time together. "At this meal, I saw my son's renewed confidence and hope. As long as we father and son support each other, any difficulties will pass.
Mending my relationship with my son was the happiest moment for me. In order to get my son out of trouble as soon as possible, I started looking for job opportunities for him in my social circle. After careful selection, I found a small but promising private enterprise and recommended it to my son.
However, to my surprise, he was not interested in the job opportunity and had a more negative attitude. I was puzzled and asked him why. He told me honestly that he was tired of the kind of work that required connections, and wanted to find a job on his own.
I was very surprised and remorseful when I heard the news. I was so eager to help my son that I neglected his needs to grow up. He's no longer the kid who needs his parents' guidance, and I shouldn't force him to do what I want.
I said to him seriously, "Son, you are right, you should choose your own future. As a father, I'm so Xi to making decisions for you. This time I learned that your autonomy should be in your own hands.
Son, thank you for your continued trust and support. I know you're ready to face life on your own and find yourself. I will give you the time and space to do what you want.
Whichever path you choose, I will fully support you. "I looked at him affectionately and then hugged him. At that moment, I felt an open-mindedness and relief in my heart. After that, I asked him to move back home, but try to give him enough autonomy and not interfere with his life too often.
He started looking for a job, and I only gave him advice when I needed to, and left him to decide everything else. After several months of hard work, he finally got a job in a foreign company through his own strength.
On the day of the signing, our father and son hugged happily. I'm proud of his growth and glad I've learned to let go. After work, he became more calm and mature, and I felt that he had found a new direction in life and the motivation to persevere. Every time I see him and see the positivity and confidence on his face, I feel very relieved.
Life is long, and no one can lead a child all the way through. As a father, I will help my child when he is in trouble and let him fly when he is ready to fly.
This is perhaps the deepest emotion between father and son. Watching my children get back on track, I am truly grateful that life has given us the opportunity to rediscover each other and repair our relationships. I will cherish this experience and continue to accompany my child's growth. Because of him, he is the most precious pride in my life.