Jiang Yafei and Wang Haiyang have entered the palace of marriage, and Jiang Yafei has moved to the Wang family.
An Jie said with emotion: This kind of favorite thing can't be kept, and the troublesome thing is difficult to get rid of, what do you think is going on.
Anjie was annoyed by Jiang Weimin, she didn't like him, but unfortunately Jiang Weimin encountered a storm of unemployment and planned to return.
Since the return of Jiang Weimin and his wife, Xu Hong, the two of them have been immersed in sweet dreams every day, the sun is high, and they have neither gotten up nor been busy with housework.
Anjie didn't have a good impression of them from the beginning, and even got tired of them. When they return, they become idle, reluctant to go out looking for work, and do not participate in household chores. His parents were farmers, his father worked outside the home to earn money, and his mother took care of his elderly grandmother at home. Anjie takes care of three meals a day, so much so that they can't even get up on time to eat.
Xu Hong is obviously a "lazy person", and she vents her anger on her daughter Yaya. Yaya only asked her about the location of the correction fluid, but she seized the opportunity and bluntly accused her daughter: "If everything is gone, look for me?" Am I a thief? ”
Although Xu Hong doesn't have many things, as a junior, she doesn't seem to have the slightest respect for An Jie, and An Jie responded that she still has three words waiting for.
From the side, Xu Hong seems to have become a lazy daughter-in-law, no matter how far or near, tall or short, she is dissatisfied with her, but in any case, she is not a competent daughter-in-law, and she can't even count her passing grades, which is really unsatisfactory.
When I first ** "Parents' Love", I found that Xu Hong's snarky, lazy, and sloppy personality not only dragged down Jiang Weimin, but also delayed Jiang Weimin, and even led to Jiang Weimin's destruction. After 8 years of time, I finally understand that Xu Hong is indeed a rare virtuous wife.
Xu Hong's inferiority complex in her heart made Jiang Weimin feel as if there were other people by his side.
An Jie was originally a woman from a capitalist family, she is both beautiful and elegant, with rich cultural heritage and unique mood. Basically, from the moment she became sensible, she was in a situation of being pampered and admired. Under the influence of her father, she loved to read since she was a child. Subsequently, Jiang Defu's feelings for her became deeper and more cherished. When we compare An Xin, our sister who is the same person but has a different fate, Mr. Ge, who has a similar background, and Jiang Dehua, who has worked hard all his life, An Jie's inner sense of superiority is even stronger, and Jiang Defu himself is by no means an ordinary person. He is a very assertive man, he thinks more than others, and he is able to act according to his own opinions. As a result, An Jie's personality has become more arrogant.
When An Jie saw the decadent appearance of Jiang Weimin and his wife, his eyes were full of contempt and impatience.
Of An Jie's five children, Jiang Weimin is the least popular.
Jiang Weimin's academic performance was not satisfactory, and he did not want to serve on the island, but chose to go to the mountains and countryside. In the village, he is a well-known "old third".After graduating from high school, he became a cadre of the production team. After a year of living in the countryside, he could not bear the hardships of the countryside, so he decided to work in the tractor factory in the county. Despite Anjie's advice, he stuck to his decision to marry and have children locally.
Xu Hong was not strictly scrutinized by An Jie at the beginning, if it weren't for this, she would definitely flee the scene in a hurry like Bai Hongmei.
Obviously, Xu Hong's marriage contract with Jiang Weimin has been confirmed, and it is clear that Xu Hong has brought a daughter to the Jiang family, but it is clear that Jiang Weimin's performance is not particularly outstanding. His mother was a very capable person and was well-known in the village. However, An Jie does not have a good impression of Xu Hong, and feels uncomfortable no matter how he goes.
Is Xu Hong really that unbearable?
She is also a person with a sense of shame, An Jie roared angrily: "Xu Hong, my expectations for you are actually not high. In this family, you need to be clear about your role and status, neither feel inferior nor too conceited, pay attention to your social status, handle your own affairs properly, and you will give me such an opportunity in the future! She cried and said, "I don't want to be like that." "Make her cry loudly.
She was born into an ordinary citizen family, and in the face of the arrogant An Jie, she felt inferior, sensitive and transparent, which made her lose her sense of belonging and existence. She is an autistic person and doesn't know what to do. As a result, she has no choice but to elevate her presence in a way that lacks empathy.
When Jiang Weimin woke up Xu Hong, Xu Hong once said: "If I make cattle and horses for your family, your parents will look down on me even more, thinking that I have climbed your family and are willing to make cattle and horses for your family." ”
When a person encounters difficulties on a certain path, he may develop feelings of rebellion, choose the opposite path, and even if he encounters setbacks, he will be braver and go further, as a way to attract the attention of others and fight back.
Xu Hong is going further and further down her path of uncompassionate, gluttonous and lazy life. She doesn't participate in housework, doesn't get up on time to eat breakfast, sleeps until dawn, and even has conflicts with An Jie, all because of An Jie's arrogance and contempt for her who was uneducated and born in the countryside.
An Jie was originally not interested in Jiang Weimin, because he went to the countryside and couldn't stand it in just one year. Anjie wrote him a letter, telling him to be patient a little longer, and then after a year or two, he was transferred back to the city through some kind of connection. However, Jiang Weimin did not accept the advice, but decided to marry and have children in the local area.
Now, the couple are unemployed, but when they return to An Jie's side, An Jie sees that their downfall is no longer what they once liked, but has become despised and despised and despised .
Jiang Weimin has been growing up since he was a child, and he has been tired of An Jie's cold attitude towards him for many years. He was a very assertive person, and his way of acting and thinking were questioned by everyone. Now, Xu Hong is no longer popular, but unlike this, Jiang Weimin chooses to endure silently, while Xu Hong fights back with unreasonable reasons.
Loneliness is always with us in life, allowing us to survive independently. Whether it is our birth, growth, love, or our successes or failures, in the end, loneliness is like a shadow, existing in a corner of life.
For Jiang Weimin, whose parents disliked him and whose siblings were estranged, their loneliness seemed to have become even stronger.
Xu Hong's inferiority complex brought a touch of warmth to Jiang Weimin's husband, making him feel that at least one person was beside him, standing behind him, giving him encouragement and strength. "He's my husband. Although the outside world may think that these are "collusions", for him, they are priceless.
In the book "The Elegance of the Hedgehog", it is mentioned: "Only those who have the same frequency can truly feel the hidden elegance of each other's hearts." ”
Only Xu Hong can gain insight into the little-known elegance in Jiang Weimin's heart.
When An Jie was raising money for everyone, Xu Hong overheard his words. She told Jiang Weimin: "Sleep, sleep, sleep, you know sleep, just like a pig, get up quickly, go out and listen." Your mom opened a laundromat for you and asked you to do the dirty laundry for others, and your mom was going to let you work as a maid for someone else, doing the laundry, washing the dirty clothes. ”
What Xu Hong said does not mean that she can't be with An Jie, she really understands Jiang Weimin, and she understands that Jiang Weimin is difficult to compromise on laundry work. Especially Jiang Weimin's other siblings, they were all former soldiers and teachers, and they were all children of the same mother, which made Jiang Weimin feel very embarrassed.
She expressed it this way, and specifically pointed out that it was "cleaning stained clothes", but before this became a clear fact, she hoped that Jiang Weimin would make psychological expectations in case An Jie was distracted at a critical moment, but Jiang Weimin was still unwilling to accept it, causing both sides to be hurt.
Lin Huiyin once expressed this view: "Only those who have the same heart can truly feel the highs and lows of the world; Only those whose souls are closely connected can truly appreciate the beauty in each other's hearts. ”
Although Xu Hong's performance in some aspects is indeed unsatisfactory, that vitriolic and bitter attitude is only caused by her inner inferiority. However, she is the one who has a heart-to-heart with Jiang Weimin, a soul close to him, and understands him.
Xu Hong is committed to protecting the people of Jiangwei.
Since Jiang Weimin didn't want to do laundry for others, he chose to resist, fight, and make noise.
An Jie said to Jiang Weimin: "Jiang Weimin, your eyes are really high, this mountain looks at that mountain, it's just your two streams of water, at most it's just washing clothes, do you still want to flow to **?" Do you still want to flow to Tiananmen Square in Beijing? ”
Before Jiang Weimin could speak, Xu Hong had already spoken: "It's really hurtful for you to say this, how can you speak?" ”
Although Jiang Weimin is the young son of the Jiang family, every decision he makes is based on a momentary impulse and a sudden heartbeat. However, because of his father's words, his life was changed. As parents of a child, we should not force him to return after one to two years, but more importantly, give him proper guidance and education so that he understands the advantages and disadvantages of his decision-making, so that he can make informed judgments.
Xu Hong knew the reason behind Jiang Weimin's unwillingness to continue serving on the island. Due to the opposition of his parents, he hoped that Jiang Weimin would stay away from them, go as far as possible, and even be willing to leave the island and become a farmer.
Xu Hong has always been on Jiang Weimin's side, as a child that the Jiang family does not like, she regards him as her husband and her partner in life, and she protects both him and herself.
Jiang Yafei and Jiang Weimin are twins, although Jiang Weimin always obeys his words, Jiang Yafei shows a female character, she single-handedly beat the two boys to scars.
Jiang Yafei reprimanded Jiang Weimin for bringing trouble to his parents when he came back, and his misfortune could only be blamed on his own fate, not his parents.
Xu Hong expressed it like this: "Jiang Yafei, why do you dare to mention me? Why do you call me? On weekdays, you are always on my side, and you dare to say that you are to others, and you better not cause trouble here. ”
Indeed, in order to marry the "persistent child" who was not even optimistic about her parents, Jiang Yafei adopted the strategy of cutting first and then playing, and notified her parents of the wedding dinner of the two families, so that they had to accept it.
From this point of view, Jiang Weimin is currently more inclined not to go to the laundry, and compared with Jiang Yafei, he is more gentle.
Is it just because of Jiang Yafei's outstanding performance that Jiang Weimin's status is neither high nor low? Can't you gain a foothold in this society because you don't have the ability? Should we be different because we have no future?
Xu Hong has always been on Jiang Weimin's side, she protects his self-esteem, his pride as a husband, his self-confidence as a father, and all his rights and interests.
Xu Hong sincerely worked together with Jiang Weimin.
When the laundromat plan was shelved, Anjie handed over the funds raised to Jiang Weimin, hoping that he could use the funds as initial capital for the startup, and he could do whatever he wanted.
Jiang Weimin adopted Jiang Defu's advice and founded the teahouse.
Under Jiang Weimin's decision, Xu Hong became his wife and gave her obedience, encouragement and support.
While entering the ** house to decorate, Xu Hong and Jiang Weimin visited the teahouses in the city together, conducted a series of observations and comparisons, absorbed their advantages, and eliminated unnecessary parts. Their preparation was quite well done, resulting in both being very busy.
When they had just returned, An Jie and Jiang Defu reprimanded them, accusing them of not wanting to sleep at night and not getting up during the day, and sleeping until the sun was three poles higher.
Are they really not willing to put in the effort? Do you really want to be a dependent parent?
But this is not the case.
Jiang Weimin already has a wife and children, and when he returns home to rely on his parents again, his heart is full of pain. The same is true for Xu Hong, who has a low level of education, making it more difficult to find a job again after losing her job. She wants to keep her children in her hometown so that they can have a better environment to grow up. He doesn't want to stay at home or rely on his parents, and she also hopes to work hard with Jiang Weimin and live together.
During the day, they are afraid to go out to meet their parents, and they are even more afraid of having visitors in their homes because they feel ashamed and feel that they have no face to socialize with. At night they are eating out, and when they eat, they are afraid that others will see them, because they are afraid that others will see them, they feel that they are ugly, they feel that they have nothing great to show off. It's not that they don't want to fall asleep at night, but because they can't find a suitable job and stay at their parents' house for long periods of time, which makes it difficult for them to sleep.
Xu Hong thought deeply about her husband's feelings, deeply worried about his worries, and in order to get out of this depressing life, she had reached the point where she "didn't even want tea, didn't even want to eat, and forgot to eat even when she slept and ate".
She is willing to work together with Jiang Weimin, she is willing to work hard for their common life, and she is by no means the kind of woman who forgets her righteousness and thinks differently.
The teahouse has already started to open, Xu Hong has really put in great efforts, she is not only committed to running the teahouse, but also trying to increase the business scale of the teahouse, hoping to make the teahouse more prosperous, but also hope to live a better life.
When Jiang Defu was crumbling and almost fell, only Xu Hong reached out in time to help him.
As time passed, when Jiang Defu celebrated his 80th birthday, An Jie stayed up late knitting sweaters for him as gifts, and as a result, Jiang Defu lost consciousness.
The patient was rushed to hospital and diagnosed with subarachnoid haemorrhage, when he regained consciousness is unknown.
Jiang Defu and An Jie have experienced a lifetime of ups and downs and frictions, and the two have long become an inseparable part of each other, and they cannot part with each other.
An Jie suddenly lost consciousness, Jiang Defu became sluggish and restless, he waited anxiously, and when the doctor told him when he would regain consciousness, his previous calm was completely broken.
At that particular moment, he was surrounded by his beloved daughter Jiang Yafei, his least beloved son Jiang Weimin, and their respective life partners.
When Jiang Defu was crumbling and almost fell, the four of them were waiting next to him. And the first to help him was his least optimistic daughter-in-law Xu Hong, who was a greedy and lazy daughter-in-law.
Initially, An Jie and Jiang Defu were not optimistic about Xu Hong, they did give her a not-so-good expression and severely criticized her. They are very different in age, and they are old neighbors, all living in the same village. However, she did not hold a grudge. When they enter old age, she does not just show kindness to them at the ceremony, but genuinely cares about their physical health, rather than just staying on the surface, pretending, and looking and behind the scenes.
From this point, it can be seen that even in daily life, when they are healthy, Xu Hong will always care for and take care of them.
Xu Hong's inferiority complex has changed from the initial attitude of gluttony, laziness and ignorance of human feelings to double the kindness towards them. Because they are all children who have been bullied. Since they are not popular, I care about them and take care of them, hoping to attract their attention in this way.
Xu Hong knows Jiang Weimin's character well and puts him first, although everyone is prejudiced against Jiang Weimin, she is more willing to work together with Jiang Weimin to live a better life. She is an ordinary and strong woman. She has always cared for and cared for Jiang Weimin's parents, and although his parents may have had a contemptuous attitude towards her in the past, she has always guarded his parents, who have only been in contact with Jiang Weimin. In such a relationship, there is no emotional connection between her and him. Now that he has such a wife, what else can a husband pursue?
Xi Murong once expressed this point of view: "Marriage is not only a face-to-face relationship between two people, but also two people working together to face this complex world." ”
Jiang Weimin and Xu Hong are two partners who face the world together, and although the world may not be very friendly to them, they still go all out and try to live.
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I hope that in our married life, everyone can show their bodies and face this wide world together.