If you can't accept the fact of the breakup after the breakup, then you will find that the more difficult it is for you to recover.
At the moment when the other party mentions the breakup, you will feel that the breakup is terrifying, like a flood of beasts, impacting your young heart.
The reasons for this,It's because you didn't seriously analyze the breakup, and when the other party mentioned the breakup, you weren't prepared at all, so it came so suddenly, which made it difficult for you to accept.
Today, from the perspective of breaking up, I will let you abandon your fear and let you face it calmly.
The first point,We first have to understand that breaking up is not a bad thing.
Has anyone seriously considered what a breakup is. Breaking up means that you are no longer in a relationship, but have you ever thought about it?Any couple will one day stop being in a relationship.
To put it mildly, the old husband and wife have been in love for decades, which is enough to become a model for couples, but there is one person in life who goes first, and your relationship will eventually return to you alone.
The reason why you are obsessed with the relationship is because that person is still in this world, and you still feel that there is hope for it to continue.
But separation and reunion are the truth of love, so we don't think that breaking up is a bad thing.
You can think of a breakup as another look of love, although you don't like it, but it is a part of love after all, and the breakup also reminds you that there is a rift in your love. That is, you don't have what it takes to manage your love well.
Therefore, the best attitude in the face of a breakup is to eat a trench and grow wise, and how much you gain in this relationship is the meaning that your relationship brings you.
The second point,The reason why a breakup is so scary in the eyes of many people is only because you have positioned the breakup incorrectly.
One of the things I often say is that love is only a part of life, and breaking up is only a part of love.
But let's look at the state of many people after breaking up now, and regard the breakup as the whole of life, so that your life is overshadowed, can it not be scary?
If you still want to redeem it, you are not using the breakup to pull with your ex, you should use your life to tell your ex that you are worth itPossess.
So the more you focus on the breakup, the more you'll focus on your ex, not only will your ex feel that you're worthless, but you'll lose yourself when your focus is on the other person.
If you want to get out of the breakup too much, your life will be completely controlled by feelings, and you will lose your independent personality characteristics
The third point,You're afraid of breaking up because your emotions make you not objective;
So what is the objective face of the breakup, it is also very simple, if there is a job, use the analogy of work, as if when you complete a certain job, you will eventually fail, and you will think about which step went wrong.
Students who are studying use their studies to do something similar, as if you miscalculated a question, you think about which step was wrong, and so on.
If you have this mindset, you won't be bothered by emotions.
In fact, the end of a relationship, to be preciseI'm sure both of you have problems, it's just a matter of saying who has more and who has less, and who wants to redeem and who will change it.
If you correct it, you will move forward, and if you put it down, you will move forward. The only thing that can be done is not to let emotions stumble and stop in placeThat's not the right attitude towards life.
Finally, don't be afraid to break up, breaking up is the only way to love, we treat it with different attitudes, we will have different life experiences, that's all, so do you know which way you want to choose to deal with it?
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