A close friend once said that what can really hurt us is to make some inappropriate remarks on the Internet, which will not cause you substantial harm. Once both sides are blocked, the matter will come to an end.
However, real-life people are much more likely to hurt you.
Some people will take advantage of certain opportunities to make the relationship thin and insist on being alone. Such people usually have the following mindsets that allow them to spend time during the Spring Festival.
I hate the worldly mentality of human feelings, and ignore those hypocritical family feelings.
The first day of the new year, the second lang of the first year, the third and fourth days of the first year of the fourth year of the new year", it has become an important custom to visit the door during the New Year.
When I was a child, we had to go to a relative's house for dinner or even stay overnight. Especially the relatives in the countryside were too hospitable and the meals were exceptionally delicious.
In addition, there are many playmates of the same age, frolicking and playing, and having fun.
However, now that we are all grown up, we have little free time, and we may have to work immediately after the Chinese New Year. Many relatives also moved to the city to settle down. As a result, it has become the norm to visit several relatives in a single day.
Carrying gifts to visit relatives, before you finish a cup of tea, you have to rush to the next one.
Although the polite words were well spoken, no one took them seriously and could not remember them.
It seems that New Year's greetings have become a process, whether it is perfunctory for the elders or the younger generations. But if you are perfunctory, you will also feel tired.
Some people's choice of perfunctory is superfluous, and it is better to miss each other than to see each other.
The mentality of being too lazy to bother, the ideal New Year is "if you don't come to my house, I won't go to your house". In the city, if you have a lot of guests in your home, cooking and eating can become a hassle. Not only is it hard, but the room is small and can't accommodate so many guests.
The guests arrived in batches, and the cooking had to be for several days in a row, and they were very tired.
After the guests leave, you have to clean it, which takes several hours.
The kids were making noise in the living room, soiling the walls and rummaging through the couch.
Bedrooms can also become cluttered, making it difficult for you to rest the night.
The home in the city is not a small farmhouse courtyard, and it cannot accommodate the scene of a banquet.
On the other hand, if you go to someone's house, your relatives have similar problems. Adults may restrain themselves, but children.
Seeing an elderly relative cooking for himself couldn't help but feel unbearable.
We can also choose to go to the hotel to eat, but not all of us have the financial means to do so. A few thousand dollars may be spent on a few months of savings.
Fear of trouble has become the attitude of many middle-aged people, so it is easy to understand that they are reluctant to go to relatives.
Everything depends on one's own mentality, the past achievements are their own hard work, and the future is also.
When I was a child, I went to my uncle's house as a guest, and my uncle said, "When you grow up, if you have anything, just ask me for anything, I can help you." ”
However, when I grew up and wanted to go to a vocational school, my mother borrowed money from my uncle.
But the uncle said, "What's the use of a secondary school? Let's go to work. ”
The mother came home in tears, and the feelings between the siblings were cold.
I finally understood that some of what my relatives said should not be taken seriously. The clearer I remember, the more painful I feel inside.
When we enter middle age, we also have a certain amount of savings and status. I went to visit relatives again, and I felt that there was no need.
used to come all the way by himself, but later he broke through alone, maybe even his brothers and sisters stood by and watched, let alone relatives.
I don't depend on my relatives, so why should I be like my parents? This is unacceptable. Having figured it out, I would rather cut off relations with relatives to avoid hearing some unrealistic words and seeing faces that I don't want to see.
In particular, those who have gone to work in other places have long been estranged from their relatives. Each small family is an independent unit, each developing in a different direction, so it is okay to do so.
Qu high and low mentality, his own level is very high, and he is not willing to go to the low level.
The higher the pitch of a song, the fewer people will be able to keep up with the rhythm.
The higher a person's life level, the fewer people around him. The structure of the crowd is like a pyramid, with a large number of people at the bottom and a sparse number at the top.
If you jump out of the bottom and go back to the bottom, you will find yourself out of place, or the voices in the crowd, that make you feel uncomfortable. Everyone says vulgar things, complains about society, and haters of officials can really affect your mood.
I have a classmate who used to work in a police station and later served as the director of a certain bureau.
For a while, classmates often received ** from relatives asking for help.
However, most of the students will refuse.
The classmate said: "Everyone thinks that I have a lot of power and many acquaintances in the legal industry. Therefore, those who seek help are either lawsuits, detention, gambling, etc. A good thing. Help, if you hinder social justice, you can't distort the law; Don't help, relatives say you're unkind.
There is a self-evident social law: if you don't come to the door, I won't visit.
If you want to keep a certain distance from your relatives to reduce emotional distraction, then take the initiative to distance yourself and take action.
Your indifference, the other party will definitely be able to perceive, and then will respond to you with indifference. Thankfully, that's exactly what you're looking for in the first place.
Think deeply about whether you want to follow your heart or be swayed by others.
Therefore, we should not feel guilty for not visiting our relatives on holidays, but we should insist on ourselves and maintain our small family.
Not visiting relatives and staying away from them does not mean that you are not socialized, but you are just used to being in your own suitable circle.