In interpersonal interactions, people often wear masks to make their appearance appear amiable. However, this superficial beauty does not represent their inner world.
As the ancients said: "The human heart is separated from the belly, the face is good-looking, and the human heart is unpredictable." "On the big stage of society, how can we see the true intentions of others and avoid being harmed?
The famous host Zhou Libo once said: "When Newton drops an apple on his head, he becomes a big scientist." Indeed, at some point, people may suddenly realize the true meaning of life. In interpersonal communication, we can roughly judge whether it is good or bad by observing the following moments.
At the moment of asking for someone, you can see a person's utilitarian heart. Many people will keep their voices down when borrowing money, and even pretend to be grandchildren, but this does not mean that they know how to be grateful and peaceful, this is just a matter of necessity and expediency. They are simply using your strength to try to profit from the difficult situation.
At such times, no matter how you treat them, they will greet them with a smile and will not conflict with you. However, this type of person will often disappoint you when you need help. For example, people who borrow money and don't pay it back, people who step on others to climb up, and people who don't know how to be grateful will make you feel cold. Interests are like a boning knife, which can remove the mask of hypocrisy from people and reveal their true faces.
When you are proud, you can see the level of a person. Once some people get it, they will forget their original intentions, treat the people at the bottom badly, and even use their position to oppress others.
And people who are truly hierarchical, when they are proud, will try to help others and share their successes. Of course, there are some people who keep a low profile, and although they may not necessarily take the initiative to help others, they can at least maintain a medium level and will not disappoint.
The moment you treat the weak, you can see whether a person is kind or not. Those who lend a helping hand when others are in distress are often full of kindness in their hearts; Those who take advantage of the fire at this time reveal their bad nature, and by observing these moments, we can make a more accurate judgment of a person's character, so as to avoid associating with those who are harmful and unhelpful. As the ancients said: "The road knows the horsepower, and the people can only truly understand their inner world by understanding a person deeply."
Parties, once a feast of emotions, are now exhausting. More and more people are starting to agree with the idea that once you're in a class reunion, you don't want to set foot in it again." ”
Gatherings are supposed to be warm moments to come together and reminisce about old friendships. However, the reality is that once we step into the party, we find that everyone becomes "sophisticated". The former mountain alliance and sea oath are now only left with the calculation of interpersonal relationships. People associate relationships with money and power, making them smell of copper.
In the party, some people boast about themselves, some people are bent to welcome, some people are looking for abnormal members of the opposite sex, and some people are drinking and showing off their wealth, the situation is unbelievable.
What's even more terrifying is that some people use gatherings to amass wealth, with a clear purpose and "snobbery".
Comparison, stepping on low and praising high, the ugliest side of human nature is exposed at the party.
We originally hoped to deepen our relationship with each other through the party, but unexpectedly, the party made the relationship even weaker, or even disappeared.
Once you are left behind by the group, you will understand that everything has to be on your own, and it is wise to stay away from the group and be alone.
However, if there is someone in the group who cares about you and is willing to help you after the meeting, or if you can interact and cooperate with him, then you can form a personal relationship and meet in small circles later.
In interpersonal communication, you have your disguise, and I have my insight. What is true or false, over time, will always be true.
Too much socializing, taking a decade to establish, can collapse in an instant.
A vicious word, an experience of asking for help, a smug expression. In it, there is nowhere to hide.
The ancients said: "Making friends with a person begins with appearance, becomes a benefit, and ends with character." ”
May we all be a person who is consistent with the outside and the inside, associate with people with good character, and let it become our guide to life, leading us to truth, goodness, and beauty.