If you don't take it, if you don't send it, what is the deep meaning? How does it make sense?
Introduction: With the continuous improvement of rural living standards, the financial resources of farmers are gradually increasing, so in the countryside, the amount of dowry has also increased. In the countryside, people attach great importance to the marriage of their children, and they want to make the marriage beautiful. In the traditional wedding customs of the countryside, there is a saying that "aunts don't welcome, aunts don't send each other". In that case, why can't the aunts participate in this wedding event? Can we still maintain such habits in today's world? Let's look at the question.
Uncle should not. In the countryside, the traditional marriage ceremony is attended by a representative of the woman's family. The selection of marriage partners is very important, not only to prepare the wedding vehicle, but also to prepare gifts, but also to reflect the face of the man's family. However, it is interesting to note that the aunt, as a relative of the woman and the man, is not allowed to attend the wedding. Why can't even my aunt participate?
First of all, there was a set of rigorous marriage system and ideological system in China's ancient rural society. As soon as a woman gets married, she will be regarded as a person from "someone else's family", so she, as a mother, cannot take the place of her husband's family to marry a daughter-in-law. This has a lot to do with the ancients' belief in women's belonging and women's ideology. In addition, among the ancients, there was also a superstitious idea that "Gu" and "Lonely" were homophonic, which would bring lifelong happiness to the woman. In order to avoid bad symbols, when choosing relatives, no one chooses an aunt.
However, in today's world, such constraints do not necessarily exist. Nowadays, people pay more attention to individual autonomy and autonomy, and the family affection and blood affection of aunts and uncles cannot be erased, and they can also participate in this welcoming ceremony, because family harmony is the most important thing.
I'm not leaving. ”
In the countryside, when getting married, not only the husband's family must come to greet him personally, but also the woman's family. Like the husband's aunt, the wife's aunt is not allowed to participate in such rituals. This provision also has deep historical roots.
First of all, although the parties are relatives, the parties have long been married and are no longer "self-family". In the ancient countryside, if it was not one's relatives who came to the wedding, others would think that it was a bad omen, so the girl's family would not let her aunt come to the wedding. In addition, there are some people who have the same sound as "aunt" and "doubt", for fear of giving bad hints or suspicions to newcomers.
Similar to "auntie", it is necessary to break through this limitation in contemporary times. The relationship between the concubine and the bride is unquestionable, so they are eligible for this wedding. After all, marriage is a family affair, and family harmony is far better than superstition.
Conclusion. As a common custom in rural customs, although it has a profound historical and cultural heritage, it is doubtful whether it can be accepted by contemporary people. At the wedding, the aunt and aunt are relatives who are related to the bride by blood, so they are eligible to participate in the wedding. It is important to inherit and carry forward traditional culture, but it is also necessary to keep up with the pace of the times and eliminate those things that are unreasonable. Let us look at the changes of rural marriage with an open mind and a tolerant attitude, and find a balance between individual freedom and family harmony.