In recent years, there seems to be a "strange phenomenon" among young people: during the Chinese New Year, they would rather have nothing to do at home, rather than go out to party with relatives, and even old classmates do not socialize much. There is a very apt description of this phenomenon on the Internet: the tide of Internet family severance. 
"Break off" at home, but miss home when you leave home? Just a few days after the start of construction, some netizens began to sigh, feeling that the rental house was their home, relaxed and comfortable. Returning to the home of my parents, who grew up, is like going on a "trip". 
Before the Chinese New Year, I looked forward to going home every day, but when I got home, I found that it was a little different from what I imagined, so I looked forward to returning to my small rental house ...... soonSome people may ask, how can anyone want to escape from their family at the same time? When you return to a familiar place, the easiest thing to evoke is emotional memory. Home is the most secure place in our hearts, where we grew up, where we had our childhood, and everything in childhood was desirable.
But a little urging from parents, in such an environment, can instantly stimulate all the bad emotions in the past. Irritability, restlessness, and resistance.
This is the distress brought by the brain mechanism, and it is also a knot that many people can't escape from facing their own origins. 
Why are young people starting to "cut off their families"? Some netizens complained that they only need to spend 2,000 for the New Year in a rental house, but they can directly upgrade to 20,000 when they return to their hometown. Most of the young people are ordinary people, who have studied hard for more than ten years, and after graduation, they find a job in the local area and start to work hard for a better life in the future. But when you return to your hometown, it must be a comprehensive comparison site. Children are more decent and earn more than their academic performance, interests and talents, and adults than their jobs. 
How to reflect the amount of money you make? That must be indispensable to the amount of New Year's money, the level of gifts brought by relatives, your own clothing, and going out to dinner. It's as big as the car you drive, it's the house you buy, and it's as small as whether the mobile phone you use is **. Home, this place can be really complicated at times. It can be both your safe haven and your "emotional battlefield". Some young people feel that it is stressful to have to face expectations, comparisons and questions as soon as they get home. 
If you have just graduated from college, then the pressure of taking the public entrance examination will be on you. The end of the universe is Kaogong. In the eyes of many parents, only the public examination is a "serious job". No matter what position you hold in the company, when you return to your hometown, you will be a social idler who is adrift, has no fixed place to live, and has no security for the future. It is the right choice to take the public examination in your hometown. They don't understand why the children are doing jobs that don't pay well, why do they still insist on it, they can arrange it for you when they go back to their hometown, and there is nothing wrong with having a worry-free life. In my parents' time, work was all about earning money. A representative of a successful career earns money under the guarantee of the state. Although the examination cannot make a fortune, it is an "iron rice bowl". 
But this generation is different, they work for a better life. If they get a salary, but still live a life that is contrary to the future they want, and habitually live in a familiar environment, they would rather give up this "decency", they want to run to the mountains and seas, they want to become adults like their parents, they want to see how big the world is, they want to challenge different things, and they want to become a better version of themselves. If you happen to be in the third place, then congratulations, welcome the urging from your parents. In my hometown, it is a "sin" not to be married at 30. Netizens have made some analyses of their parents' urging to marry:First of all, the most superficial reason is the "responsibility" of parentsIn their concept, it is their mission to raise a family and a baby by themselves and help their children start a family. 
Second, there is a view that this generation of parents needs to complete their own "socialization", that is, what parents often say, "what to do at what age". If they don't finish on time, they will feel that they can't fit in with society, and everyone will "look down" on them, which is a huge fear that parents can't bear. But the younger generation has their own concept, getting married and having children, it is not a task, but a sublimation of emotions. The basis of all this is that I have become a better version of myself, a new journey, and I can move forward in a better direction with myself, and if I don't have this foundation, then not starting is also a kind of responsibility. In fact, maintaining interpersonal relationships between people is nothing more than two kinds, one emotion and one interestThat is, either like-minded, or able to benefit from it, or to be blunt, give me love, or give me money. 
For parents who are often in their hometown, they are in the same place, "look up and don't look down", and the New Year together must be as lively as possible, but for young people who don't see each other once a year, it is comparable to accompanying the boss to see customers who have not been connected. 
What is the essence of the "wave of family severance"? So are today's young people really indifferent and ruthless, and they don't recognize their six relatives? Of course not. Behind the "tide of breaking relatives" who don't want to go back to their hometown, there is actually "breaking differences", not only for relatives, but also for everyone who no longer conforms to life and does not speculate. Spend more time with like-minded "partners". We should not simply regard the phenomenon of "severance of relatives" as a negative social phenomenon. To a certain extent, "severing relatives" is actually a manifestation of the awakening of modern people's active social consciousness.
In the past, people were often bound by customs and traditions and had to maintain kinship according to established rules. And now, with the rise of individual consciousness,People are starting to take the initiative to choose who and how to socialize with them. While this shift has weakened kinship to some extent, it has also provided people with more freedom and space to build more precise and effective social relationships based on their interests, emotions, and utilitarian motivations. The phenomenon of "severing relatives" does not mean that family affection disappears. In fact, relatives still help and support each other in times of need. This support tends to be more practical and effective because it is based on kinship and shared memory. At the same time, with the development of social ** and communication technologies, people are still able to stay connected and interact through the web at critical moments, even if they have reduced contact with relatives in their daily lives.
In conclusion, "going home for the New Year" has a different meaning for everyone. But no matter how we choose to celebrate the New Year, we should make our home a place of love, understanding, and support, and only in this way can we make "going home for the New Year" truly meaningful and beautiful.