Retirement is seen as a quiet turning point in life's journey, and many people hope to find a pleasant place to retire at this time. However, public opinion is divided on whether to choose the countryside as a place to live after retirement. Some have made their concerns clear:
They argue that rural residents are more conservative and may have significant differences in values and worldviews from urban retirees, which can lead to difficulties in integrating into local society.
The rural environment is not always suitable for the elderly, and there may be problems such as insufficient infrastructure and lack of medical resources.
Retirees may not have their own property and land in rural areas and have to rely on others, which can make them feel a loss of independence and dignity.
Although for some people, returning to the countryside is an ideal and recalling the beauty of the past, in reality, it is difficult to reproduce the past time, and things are not human. However, we still have to deal with the contact with our relatives in the countryside, so how can we gain their popularity?
First of all, giving children New Year's money and school supplies is a symbol of hope for their future. When retirees reminisce about their childhood, they can understand their children's expectations for gifts from their relatives in the city. These gifts satisfy children's curiosity and provide them with a conversation point to show off to their peers.
For children from poor families, a red envelope may be able to solve their tuition problems. This kind of care warms the child's heart and also makes the family feel your kindness and thus respect you.
Secondly, choosing practical gifts for relatives embodies a kind of social etiquette. There is an ancient Chinese saying: "Come and don't be rude." "When visiting relatives, carrying gifts is an important way to show respect and gratitude. Retirees should avoid giving the impression of being "condescending" and instead consider the actual needs and preferences of the other person.
For example, if a relative's home is rich in fruit, a juicer can be of real help. Avoid giving gifts that are too luxurious and impractical, such as expensive ones. Prepare the right gift for each of your relatives so that they can feel your sincerity and welcome you to visit often.
In this way, retirees can not only maintain good relationships with their relatives in the countryside, but also enrich their retirement life.
Give gifts to the elders, care for health, and carry the family's filial piety culture.
My distant uncle, who was in the same village as me, gradually lost his ears in his old age, and even if it was thunderous, he could only feel it dimly.
A cousin in the city, a pair of hearing aids, took the opportunity of going to the countryside to attend a wedding banquet and gave it to his uncle.
When my uncle was able to listen to everyone's conversation, he was overflowing with joy and thanked him repeatedly.
The people of the village praised my cousin for being a warm-hearted and good person.
Respecting elders is everyone's responsibility.
Imagine if a retired elderly person is still obsessed with workplace interactions, only dealing with perceived beneficial connections, and those who seem to be unprofitable, this is not appropriate.
Many elders don't bring us substantial benefits, but we don't have to dwell on that. Elders in rural areas often have a difficult life and lack extensive network support, and we should be considerate.
Prepare warm clothes and hand warmers ......for the eldersEven if it's a hat, it doesn't cost much, but it can pass on your love and continue the fine tradition of the family.
Your attitude towards the elderly is a reflection of how your children will treat you in the future.
If you have the opportunity, you may wish to bring your children to the countryside to visit the elders, so that they can understand what it means to "seek roots" and never forget the roots.
Bring local products to give to relatives and friends in the city, benefiting many parties.
With the progress of the times, many rural relatives have developed characteristic industries.
When you visit the countryside, your relatives will give you local products such as dried yellow peaches.
When accepting these gifts, it's a good idea to ask more about the sale of the souvenir and see if you can help.
Buy the specialties of your relatives in the countryside and give them to friends in the city, and if you taste them, if the response is good, you may be able to bring more repeat customers to their business.
On weekdays, we can also act as an intermediary and bring in reliable dealers and technicians for our relatives' businesses.
As the saying goes: "Relatives help relatives, but without relatives to help, people are sad." ”
Even after retirement, we can still do what we can to help our relatives, which is understandable.
Don't visit the countryside with a load of local products and leave a cold back.
From the perspective of society as a whole, the living conditions of the retired elderly are already superior to those of farmers who work all day.
On the premise of our own well-being, we might as well care about the lives of other elderly people, which is the greatest kindness.
It is true that we may not be grateful for helping our relatives, but our hearts are warm, and the blood is eternal so that we can gain peace of mind.
As a human being, you should give generously when appropriate. Don't lose family affection and ruin your image because you are too stingy.
After retirement, visit relatives and friends, spend a small amount of money, in exchange for a happy mood, and a better life.