In the real mystery of bravery, Lao Tzu once said: "Don't dare to be brave." True bravery is not just about moving forward, it also involves wisdom and timely retreat.
It is extremely important to have a brave heart, but the meaning of being brave is also to know when to stop.
Don't wait until you have no way out to get caught up in an endless struggle.
As we enter the middle of our fifties, whether we want to admit it or not, prosperity is always followed by decline.
The wise will begin to enjoy the harvest of autumn after the summer, while the fool still longs to return to the spring full of life.
Don't look back on the road you've traveled, if you are called "grandpa" or "grandma", please accept it calmly, with love and gray hair.
Calm and unhurried, know how to make trade-offs, this is the style of a fifty-year-old, otherwise the scene of old age may seem bleak. 1
If you blindly move forward, you may waste the rest of your life.
There was a talented man in the Southern Song Dynasty, named Wu Qian, who topped the high school jinshi list in his twenties. From a small official to a six-pin pacification envoy, after 17 years, he finally entered the core of the imperial court.
One day, Song Li was determined to recover the Central Plains, but Wu Qian was opposed. In the face of failure and recovery, Wu Qian was also implicated and was belittled twice.
It is understandable, Wu Qian's opposition is really to sing about himself, who wants to hear this?
Around forty, he resigned repeatedly, but was not approved. On the contrary, he was reused at the age of forty-two, and served as the right prime minister at the age of fifty.
Until the year of the sixtieth year, he was still active in the court. Prime Minister Xie Fangshu was dissatisfied with him and criticized: "This person is worthy of Wang Anshi, and he is more than that." ”
After being dismissed from the post of prime minister, he retired to the countryside.
When the Mongol soldiers went south, the emperor remembered him again and ordered him to be the prime minister of the left.
But this comeback, he encountered the traitor Jia Yi.
Jia Rudao spread rumors, "Big centipedes, small centipedes, are all poisonous insects in the world." Use the homonym of "centipede" and "Wu" to highlight the malice of human nature.
Undoubtedly, any move by Wu Qian will be distorted, as if it is always wrong.
In the end, Wu Qian was poisoned by Jia Yidao's henchmen at the age of sixty-eight.
History proves that Jia Rudao disregarded the safety of the country in order to seek a high position. In the face of the southward movement of the Yuan army, he only knew how to cut the land and seek peace, and the government and the opposition were furious, calling for his justice to be thanked to the world.
Judging from the experiences of these two historical figures, they both made the mistake of not knowing how to advance or retreat.
First, when the career reaches its peak, it is still unwilling to back down and unwilling to face the reality of "people go to tea and cool".
The second is that he is unwilling to withdraw from an inappropriate circle.
Third, he is mentally unwilling to regress and always wants to "make a comeback".
Nowadays, many people retire and still want to return to work or work, but they may not be favored by the employer. After all, they are not young, and key technical personnel may overestimate themselves.
There is a multiple-choice question in front of you: forward or backward.
Whether it is actively retreating, or being forced by time and reality, the effect of the two is very different.
Only by retreating in time can there be light.
As the saying goes: "Everything is fate, and nothing is up to anyone." Yiyun: "Fifty knows the destiny of heaven." ”
Adapting to the transition at the age of 50, we can use the results of the first half of our lives to lay the foundation for the second half of our lives.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Confucius ** Yan Hui refused to be an official.
Yan Hui said to Confucius: "Teacher, I have land and am self-sufficient; There is also a family business in the city, and there is no worry about food and clothing. Playing the piano and reading books every day, happy. That's enough. ”
Many years later, thinkers praised: "Yan Yuan's retreat is advance, which is rare in the world." ”
It is advisable for us to learn from Yan Hui, arrange a way out, release the rest of our lives, and have a harmonious family.
It is recommended to take the initiative to retreat in the following three aspects.
First of all, quit the workplace and enjoy a free life.
After many years in the workplace, the ultimate goal is only financial and life freedom. Experience the joy of "staying in a cage for a long time, returning to nature", and you will find that life after retirement, without work, and having a pension, is really a beautiful thing.
From now on, you are no longer bound by others, but disciplined – every moment is your own time.
Irrespective of. Five. It doesn't matter if you retire at 10, 55 or 60. The key is to be willing to be willing and not greedy for the workplace.
Quitting the hustle and bustle and learning to enjoy solitude.
When solitude becomes enjoyment, the soul is happy.
One person reads, walks, listens, exercises, and enjoys the scenery. The lonely appearance has also become the scenery in the eyes of others.
Being alone is a joy and not isolation.
Don't mess around, don't look at people's faces, don't fight for alcohol, and simplify life.
At this stop of the journey of life, fifty years old, like a dividing stone, it is not only a rest in the first half of life, but also a starting whistle in the second half of life.
At this juncture of time, what kind of attitude to choose to move forward is a test of wisdom and mind. Positivity is not only a high-spirited mind, but also a deep understanding and positive response to life. Just like the brave retreat in the rapids, it is not only to avoid fearless sacrifice, but also a wise choice, it is a deep consideration after the brave advance of the current, and a deep understanding of tranquility and far-reaching.
If we blindly spur ourselves on the road of life, blindly chasing and fighting, without taking into account the inner peace and physical exhaustion, then we will eventually exhaust our bodies.
Choosing a low-energy lifestyle at the right time is like finding a quiet downhill path in a dense forest, allowing the mind to rest and life to continue.
Time flies, and it doesn't stop because of anyone's indecision. If we choose to resist, then we will be overwhelmed by the torrent of time; If we choose to go along with it, then we can ride the wind of time and move forward with ease. The script of fate has long been written, we don't need to resist, we just need to understand, follow the destiny of heaven, and find our own rhythm.
In this one-way journey of life, let us no longer mourn the passing years, nor fear the unknown in the future. Let us accept every gift of life with a broader mind.
Whether it is a challenge or an opportunity, like the dew in the morning light, shining with colorful light under the refraction of light, we also find our own unique light in every corner of life.