01 Always evade responsibility.
What's wrong? I didn't make a mistake at all, someone else made it. ”
Well, this problem is obviously caused by someone else.
There are people who know it's their fault but don't admit it and keep expressing their opinions, there are people who understand why they're wrong but don't care about change, and there are people who aren't the only ones. They are reluctant to admit their mistakes and actively shift the blame onto innocent people.
These people are all essentially the same.
More extremely, not only is he unwilling to admit his mistakes, but he also shifts the blame to unrelated colleagues through false statements.
Example: The project suffered a loss due to my negligence. But I'm convinced that it's not my fault, it's a problem with the performance of other colleagues. In fact, I think they are responsible for all of this. Just a victim.
If you have such a person around you, you must be vigilant, and if you must cooperate, you must also handle it carefully to avoid getting into a liability dispute.
02 Use others as emotional trash cans.
Little A: "Oh, I'll tell my boyfriend xxxxx." ”
Little B: "He's gone too far, maybe we should reconsider our relationship." ”
Little A: "But I think he's good to me." ”
Does the above conversation sound familiar?
Some people always treat you like an emotional trash can. Whenever we have a problem or trouble, we will always come to you and discuss it with you.
You try your best to understand and provide solutions, but they don't take your approach seriously and complain the same problem to you over and over again.
This type of behavior is only used to alleviate one's own unpleasantness, rather than actually exploring ways to improve or solve a problem, treating oneself as an emotional trash can that makes people feel like they are there. Despite the care and advice we provide, it is difficult to see any real change.
In this case, a sense of boundaries is especially important. In a relationship without boundaries, you may be constantly dragged down by the other person's feelings, but the other person may not really care about your feelings.
If you have such people around you, reset your boundaries and show them that you also have your own needs and don't want to be a dustbin for their emotions or put them through too much negativity. Need to be understood.
03 Call malice.
Oh, I'm just a clown, don't take it too seriously. ”
Just kidding, why are you so sensitive? ”
This type of person always appears light-hearted and humorous on the surface, often using excuses such as "joking", but in fact is full of malice towards others.
In daily interactions, he always behaves relaxed and casual, as if he gets along well with everyone, but his jokes often make people feel awkward and lack the sense of balance they deserve.
He cleverly hides the damage done to you under a cloak of humor. On the surface, he smiles at you, but in fact hides his anger at you.
You sense his dark thoughts, but you hear him smile and say, "Just kidding, don't take it too seriously." ”
Such people are just too annoying.
Every joke is like a test of your bottom line, and any warning is a test of your patience.
The weaker you are, the more unscrupulous he becomes, and the more you give in, the more aggressive he becomes.
On the surface, his "easy-going and laid-back" appearance is just a well-crafted character, but in fact there is a deep conspiracy, and his heart is already full of intrigues.
They are good at camouflage. Although it may seem careless, it is actually very well thought out.
If you look closely, you will see that when confronted with powerful people, they quickly give in, but when confronted with weak and powerless people, they prefer to hide their malice behind a mask of humor.
This kind of person is actually maliciously testing the psychological background of another person in the name of a joke.
If you have such a person around you, if you are confronted with a "joke" of that person, you will respond with a "joke", and if that person is angry, you will say the same thing to her. Elegant.
Oh, I'm kidding, you're not that sensitive, are you? ”