Ningman was born in the countryside, and was taught to be more tolerant of everything since he was a child, and suffering is a blessing. When I was away from home, I had to build relationships with my colleagues and friends, but I found that over-tolerance didn't solve the problem, but rather made myself bruised.
Today I saw a sentence from Mr. Luo Xiang: "Turn your face as soon as possible, once you realize that your interests are violated, you must turn your face on the spot, turn your face on the spot, be polite and courteous, and then turn your face afterwards, it will be a small belly." ”
Turn your face as soon as possible
For example, Ningman encountered trouble at work: when he entered the workplace at the beginning of the year, he would not compete with his boss, let alone say "turn his face". After all, my boss decided on my promotion and raise.
For example, if you are asked to do a task other than your own job, or a task assigned to me by your boss, even if you work overtime, I will complete it seriously, for fear that if I refuse at that time, I may lose my job.
Later, I realized that we are just ordinary people who work to earn some money, so don't be too afraid of many things, once you notice that your interests are violated, you must show your attitude on the spot, escalate the seriousness of the matter to the extent that the other party can't avoid it, and let others know that our bottom line is in**.
Anyone who bullies you for the first time is testing your bottom line. Having the courage to turn your face is a very effective way to resolve interpersonal conflicts.
There is a line in the Godfather of the movie that says that soft-heartedness without boundaries will only make the other party gain an inch, and unprincipled kindness will only make the other party do whatever they want.
Let the other person understand your bottom line
In the TV series, Sheng Minglan's three bright bottom lines turned her face on the spot to show her bottom line, Sheng Minglan's growth path can be described as difficult, in the process of growing up, in addition to her tenacity and tenacity, there are three people who are very important to her, one is her biological mother Wei Xiaoniang, the other is the grandmother of the Sheng family who raised her after Wei Xiaoniang's death, and the other is her husband Gu Tingye, who has always protected her.
Sheng Minglan's three face turns are also related to these three people.
for their own mothers
Wei Xiaoniang because of her humble background, and not favored, at that time the favored concubine Lin Xiaoniang fed a large number of causes of fetal dystocia and died, Sheng Minglan found out the cause of her mother's death when she grew up and has always kept it in mind, in a family banquet back to the door, Lin Xiaoniang's daughter and the fourth sister proposed to enshrine her little lady's tablet in Yuqingguan, so that it will be enshrined with Minglan biological mother's tablet, Minglan After hearing this, she immediately turned her face with the fourth sister and her father, and sternly refused, maintaining the dignity of her mother, and also slapped the fourth sister in the face!
for their own marriage
After Minglan and Gu Tingye got married, they were their childhood sweethearts with Minglan but because the family was strongly opposed to the unequal portal, but the little grandfather of the Qi family, who could not be together, has been entangled, but at this time, both of them are married, and it is already a past that cannot be returned. So Minglan took the initiative to invite Grandpa Qi to express her attitude with her, we should all cherish the happiness of the present, we should not hold on to the past, and never look back when we look forward in everything! completely broke Qi Heng's thoughts.
for their grandmother
Grandmother was deeply angry because Minglan was oppressed by the sister of the Sheng family's eldest lady, Kang Wang's family, in order to protect her granddaughter, she angrily scolded the Sheng family's eldest lady for not associating with such a ruthless sister, so the Sheng family's eldest lady was used by Kang's family, and let her grandmother eat the poisonous pastries, and almost lost her name.
The people who gave birth to me, raised me, and protected me are my weakness and bottom line, and no one can trespass.
Not everyone is worthy of your kindness, if you don't pay attention, you really don't get treated, and you don't turn your face to live up to yourself.
True maturity lies in the face of all kinds of people and things, we have both the pattern, but also the courage, more principled, more methodical, only in this way, in order to let ourselves live freely in the complex world.
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