In traditional Chinese culture, filial piety is regarded as the most beautiful virtue.
The greatest wish of parents is to see their children be filial.
Filial children will not only succeed in their careers, but will also become the god of luck for their parents, which is considered the best blessing in the world.
If a family has filial children, then the family will be harmonious and happy, and the causes and good deeds of the past will increase.
We often say that our children are debts we owe in our previous lives, and they are here to collect debts.
But in fact, not all children come to collect debts, some are here to pay debts, and some are here to repay their kindness.
The world is so big that there are no surprises.
If we meet children who repay the favor, we should cherish them, because they usually have the following qualities.
Every newborn has a good nature, and no child is born with **.
Acquired environmental factors may influence their behavior and gradually move them away from their initial kindness.
Those children who are kind by nature will have some unique performances.
For example, since childhood, I like and love small animals, and when I see stray cats and dogs on the street, I will stop to feed them, and even beg my parents to adopt them.
These children are more sensitive, they are empathetic and loving to the weak, and they do not discriminate against them.
For example, poor children, disabled students, and begging homeless people, they will treat them with love and take the initiative to help.
When such a child grows up, he will definitely become a kind-hearted and loving person.
Kindness comes from the deep concern for others from the bottom of your heart. In a materialistic society, there are very few people who are truly altruistic.
If a child has such a spirit from an early age, under the careful care of parents, society, and school, he can avoid bullying no matter where he goes.
Because of their virtues, they have learned to understand and care for others.
This spirit will become the dominant ideology in their lives and affairs as they grow.
What parents need to do is to cultivate their good qualities.
When such children grow up, they are sincere and responsible, and their spiritual world is simple and beautiful, and they can distinguish between right and wrong, good and evil.
Their lives are full of kindness and determination, so they are loved by people.
In the process of educating their children, many parents want their children to have such personality traits.
Parents want their children to be independent and not dependent on themselves. However, in the process of education, many parents unconsciously let their children avoid being separated from themselves, such as overprotection, doting, etc.
In psychology, when a child grows up, he or she will go through the stage of "separation-independence".
In the three-dimensional relationship with parents as the core, children are fully cared for and loved, and will move from the three-dimensional relationship to the unknown multiple relationships with curiosity and exploration.
It is normal for children at the entrance of the kindergarten to cry and not want to enter the kindergarten, and many children and parents cannot accept this process of separation.
But it's much better to take that step in moderation, and parents don't have to worry too much.
Therefore, parents should let go moderately, let their children grow up independently, and at the same time give the necessary care and support.
Many parents try to make decisions for their children's concerns without knowing how to provide effective advice at critical times.
This often leads to rebellion in children, who feel that their parents are distrustful and disrespectful.
Such children have a strong sense of self-independence, and their cognitive abilities are more mature than their peers.
In this case, the role of the parent should be that of the child's supervisor and guide.
Give them the freedom to grow and develop, and only give helpful advice when necessary.
In fact, parents are overly involved in their children's lives, mainly due to their own anxieties and worries.
Some children are very sensible, and when they see their parents crying, they will comfort their parents in turn, naively saying that they will protect their parents when they grow up.
Children are the mirror of their parents, and they can help their parents deal with their inner troubles.
This is not to say that parents should pin all their hopes on their children, because each child has their own independent consciousness and personality.
If a child knows how to be independent, confident and respectful of others, then that child is a gift from God.
The most important characteristic of reciprocating children is that they love their parents deeply, they will work hard for their parents, and even compete with their fathers for their mother's love.
They are very considerate and sensible to their mothers, and they know how to feel distressed and partial to their mothers since they were young.
Such boys have a deep sense of responsibility from an early age, and they will know how to repay the kindness of others.
At the same time, they will also develop a strong brotherhood with their father, although they will sometimes quarrel.
But when it matters most, they always come to their aid.
Although they seem to be a little mischievous, they are actually the ones who know how to be the most filial to their parents.
In their conduct in the world, they always remember who was good to them, and then reciprocate with gratitude.
Such a child is really good, and it is extremely lucky that anyone can have such a child.
Children with a grateful heart usually have higher emotional intelligence.
According to my observation, some children are born with gratitude because they are born with high emotional intelligence, and such children are born with a high level of understanding and observation.
They are smart and clever, and even if their parents can't give them the nurturing they have, with a little hint, their emotional intelligence can improve quickly.
On the contrary, those who are not naturally good at reading words and feelings, no matter how much you remind them, are of no use.
Psychologist Martin Seligman believes that gratitude is a positive behavior that can help children improve their emotional state.
Similarly, American psychologists once conducted a survey in which 100 children were asked to record gratitude.
The results showed that the 72 children who recorded gratitude were happier and happier than the other 28 who did not know how to be grateful.
In this way, a virtuous circle is formed.
If your child has all of these characteristics, then he is undoubtedly a special gift from God.