Many people are accustomed to associating good deeds with money, believing that doing good deeds costs money.
There are also some people, "I am poor and I am justified", they are accustomed to waiting for help, and the charity of others to him has become a matter of course.
In fact, no matter how poor a person is, if he wants to do good deeds, he can do it at any time. For example, the old man Bai Fangli relied on the income from pedaling a tricycle to help more than 300 children realize their dream of going to school.
There is a saying, don't take the good as small and do nothing, and don't take the evil as small.
When a person enters old age, he should pay more attention to moral cultivation, become an example of society, and establish an image for the family.
Therefore, whether you have money or not, you must take the initiative to do the following good deeds to accumulate virtue and blessings.
First, repay those who have helped you and retain your kindness.
The reason why we grew up is not because of how good we are, but because we have been cared for and supported by many people; The reason why we can retire smoothly is not because others owe us a lot of money, but because we have encountered good times and have been respected by society; We can live happily in old age, not because we have created a lot of things, but because social and public services have been improved.
There is a way, people are not plants and trees, how can they be ruthless?
The older you get, the more you have to be a loving and righteous person. In our lifetime, to repay those who have helped us as much as we can, it is not what the other party needs to get, but that we can do this in order to have peace of mind and embody "emotional interaction and emotional transmission".
There is such an allusion in Zuo Chuan: During the Warring States Period, the Qin army attacked the Jin State, and the general Wei Liang of the Jin State led the troops to meet the battle.
In the chaos, Wei Wei and Du Hui, the general of the Qin State, were entangled and inseparable. Suddenly, an old man lassoed Du Hui with a rope, causing Du Hui to stand unsteadily and was arrested on the spot. As a result, the Qin army was defeated.
Wei Liang found the old man and expressed his gratitude.
The old man said, "Don't thank you. My daughter is the concubine of Wei Wuzi (Wei Ming's father). When Wei Wuzi passed away, you asked my daughter to be buried, but you didn't obey and settled her, so I came to repay the favor. ”
Friedrich Nietzsche once said, "Gratitude is the health of the soul." ”
The more grateful a person will be to others, the more relaxed his heart will be, and the more powerful his life will be. Thus, kindness is passed on to each other between people to form a beautiful social circle.
Second, take the initiative to move around with your siblings and resolve grievances.
In real life, many siblings quarrel because of their support for their parents, the unreasonable distribution of their parents' property, and the different economic conditions of small families.
Some siblings broke off their relationship after the death of their parents, and there is a sign of old age and death.
However, when you are old, you should let go of all grievances and take the initiative to reconcile. After all, hatred cannot be passed on to the next generation. It doesn't matter if relatives can move around often, but they can't plant the seeds of hatred in their hearts.
When people are old, their days are numbered. You will always realize that everything is a passing thing, a fight over it, and there is no point in fighting over it. Only reconciliation can allow oneself to leave this world quietly.
In fact, when a parent passes away, siblings are the best relatives. Don't add to the blockage for yourself all the time because of the "anger" for a while.
Third, help those who are poorer than yourself, and benefit your children and grandchildren.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "The roots of the descendants of the heart, those who do not have roots and do not plant but whose branches and leaves are prosperous." ”The predecessors planted trees, and the descendants enjoyed the shade; The predecessors planted flowers, and the descendants enjoyed the flowers.
If the elderly do not do good deeds, then the younger generations will not be able to receive the blessings of the society, and they will not be able to truly feel the beauty of the society.
We often say that when socializing, we must learn to "burn incense in the cold temple" - go to a more deserted place to burn incense in order to get more care; to take care of the very poor, in order to get endless rewards after the rise of the poor; Sympathize with the weak, and your heart will become soft and your family will become sunny.
In society, many good deeds are done through generations; There are also many good deeds that were done by the previous generation and rewarded by the next generation, even after several generations.
Netizen "Discourse on History" wrote such a story: Lu Tianmei, a single mother who lives in Yangzhou, met Liu Yuanyi, a boy who was doing his homework in the garage. After learning that the boy's parents had died, she was moved by compassion and tried her best to let the boy live in her own home, help the boy go to college, and study abroad.
After Liu Yuanyi took root in the UK, he took the initiative to repay Lu Tianmei, and also helped Lu Tianmei's daughter and son-in-law get rich together and assume the responsibility of supporting the elderly.
When the elderly do good deeds, they will not only be very happy themselves, but also accumulate virtue and blessings for future generations.
Fourth, try not to cause trouble to society and be considerate of each other.
Maybe you often see such a scene: a group of old men are exercising, taking possession of the surrounding fitness equipment; There are also people who climb trees, without any regard for public safety and their own image.
During the rush hour, there are elderly people who squeeze the bus, not in a hurry, but to go to the supermarket and the park.
Older people need to be taken care of, but they also need to know how to "respect the old and love the young". If the elderly want to be respected, they must learn to "love the young", and the interaction between people is mutual.
Every generation has its own difficulties, and the old people used to be young people, so they should be deeply aware of it. If you get old, forget all the hardships you have endured in the past, and put the happiness of your life above the pain of others, it is immoral.
For the society, we can't help much, but we can be "civilized and courteous", and when doing things, we can empathize. A little warmth, a smile, are all to convey kindness.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, the philosopher Guan Zhong said: "Those who are good are also good." ”
If a person wants to live in a kind world and get help from others, the first thing is not to ask for the kindness of others, but to do more good deeds and let others feel their kindness.
When people are old, it not only means that they should be taken care of, but also that they have a better understanding of human feelings and more experience in life, so we must develop our strengths and avoid weaknesses and continue to shine.
Believe that all kindness will come back to you later.