Hello, my name is Zhu Dabao!
Today let's talk about the two stages that girls must go through to become powerful, like soul enlightenment, each stage is like an upgrade to fight monsters, almost to peel off a layer of your skin, but each stage is also reshaping you, you will feel your progress very obviously, and eventually you will definitely be amazed by the people around you, and you yourself will be completely surprised by the changes you have made along the way.
The first stageYou begin to believe in yourself unwaveringly, and become ruthless enough to yourself, you realize that you have to change your state, you start to become extremely self-disciplined, you say what time you get up, you don't stay up late and don't have entertainment, you refuse all ineffective socialization, you start to make all kinds of changes, and constantly make yourself worthy of a better life.
For example, after I was 28 years old, I put forward a very important requirement for myself, that is, I must ensure that I am healthy and energetic, so I must go to bed before 11 o'clock and get up before 6 o'clock, if I can't do it, I feel that the day is accumulating failures at the beginning, but if I do it, I will feel that I have a sense of accomplishment as soon as I wake up, and I have completed a challenge, which is a victory in work and rest.
And in order to be more energetic, I will also insist on exercising, do yoga meditation before going to bed, pay attention to health and healthy diet, and ensure that my body has enough energy, so that I can withstand high-intensity study and work. As your body becomes stronger, your mood will improve, and your sense of challenge and strength will increase. I remember when I used to have insomnia, my whole person was limp, I didn't have any energy, I couldn't concentrate on reading, I didn't have confidence and I lacked the desire to challenge, so if I wanted to change my life, I had to fill my body with energy first. Those who are particularly successful in their careers are physically very resistant.
The second stageYou realize that you have to break through yourself from time to time to do things that you haven't done or are afraid to do. When you have successfully crossed the first stage, when your body has the spirit to enter a full state, you will have unexpected changes, you are more likely to do things that you have not done or dare not do before, because at this time your body and mind are able to withstand harsh training and great pressure.
Then it's how to take the initiative to find things that you can break through, for example, I don't want to read when I have insomnia, and I can't concentrate, so after my sleep gets better, I will forcibly train myself to concentrate, nibble on books every day, count as much as I want, keep increasing the amount, and then slowly read hundreds of books. Also, if I feel that a skill is complicated and I am repulsed, I will force myself to use it so that you can learn it quickly.
For example, I am afraid of social interaction and my speech is not flexible enough, so I train myself to be self-defeating, train my speech ability, and also train myself to resist cyber attacks, slander and abuse, so that my frustration resistance becomes stronger step by step.
For example, at the beginning, I found it difficult to write, so I trained myself to write two or three thousand words a day, trained my language and logical thinking skills, and did whatever I rejected and challenged whatever I feared. And I found that everything that I am afraid of in my heart is something that can make me evolve and make me stronger, and if you do these things, 100% you will get the improvement of your ability and a sense of accomplishment, so you have to take the initiative to find these things to do.
And I also had two very unexpected takeaways, the first is that I found that when I overcome a certain difficulty, it becomes a kind of fun. When you are skilled enough and confident enough, you will become less disgusted with the things you reject, and you will suddenly start to like it.
The second is that I also found that after I successfully crossed the first stage of self-discipline training, it was easier for me to enter the second stage, which was the difficult stage. This is not only because you have become more energetic, but more importantly, because of your self-confidence, the success of your self-discipline. We can take on new challenges, we become confident because we have succeeded in other things, so we believe that we will succeed again, and this is the greatest benefit of self-discipline.
Exercising the body, successfully strengthening the muscles of our body; Routine training strengthens the muscles of our consciousness. Although it is very painful at the beginning, but after stepping over, your muscles become stronger, you have been accumulating a sense of victory, you naturally have self-confidence, reading and writing, learning skills, entrepreneurship, like exercising muscles, the beginning of stretching is very tearing and painful, but as long as you repeat the stretch, one day you will train enough effortlessly, and then it will become a kind of inertia and habit, and there is no need to mobilize our strong willpower.
To a certain extent, human growth is actually a process of countering entropy increase. Entropy increase is a chemical state of change from order to disorderTherefore, it is energy-consuming to fight entropy increase and become orderly, and it is extremely energy-intensive, but human physiological nature tends to reduce energy consumption. So the process of growing up must be painful at first, which is a big challenge for us, but if you successfully cross these two stages, you will experience a sense of control that you have never experienced before, which is indescribable, just two words, very cool.
You find that you have jumped onto a new track and slowly shaken off the people around you, so it is also worth it to peel off this layer of skin in order to make your life cooler.