Zhang Chao, a literati of the Qing Dynasty, wrote in "The Shadow of a Dream"."Everything is coincidental, and it must be imitated." Plum pear blossom, begonia apricot, lychee cherry.
Everything has sentient beings, it's just that we live in too much of a hurry and ignore them.
The plum blossom is high in character, and the pear blossom is rich and noble, complementing each other; Begonias are gorgeous, apricot blossoms are delicate, they are one thing and one thing; Lychees and cherries are both fruits of the tree, and they have to be fought.
It seems that the literati like to mess with the mandarin duck score. But when you think about it, that's really the case. All the emotions in the world are matched, as the saying goes, it's not that enemies don't get together.
When a person is over 60 years old, he leaves the workplace and returns to life, how will he live in the future? If you straighten out your emotions, your days will be as sweet as falling into a honey pot, and if you reverse your feelings, you won't be able to go well with anyone, and you won't be at ease for a day.
Therefore, the old man who keeps the following four feelings to old age is becoming more and more blessed.
In the family, keep the "family affection".
In "Xingshi Hengyan", a story about "chaotic mandarin duck spectrum" was written.
During the Song Dynasty, there was a man named Liu Bingyi in Hangzhou who raised a son and a daughter: son Liu Pu and daughter Huiniang.
Before Liu Pu held the wedding, he suddenly fell ill.
Quasi-mother-in-law Sun, the six gods have no owner. She is worried that her daughter Aunt Zhu will marry in the past and may not have a few happy days. However, marriage events cannot be reversed at will.
In desperation, Sun decided to let his son Yulang "disguise himself as a **" and pretend to be a bride to marry himγThe original intention was to go to Liu Bingyi's house to find out the situation and see if Liu Pu had any chance of getting better.
Unfortunately, Yulang took a fancy to Liu Bingyi's daughter Huiniang at a glance, and Huiniang was also affectionate and righteous. When they were holding hands, Liu Bingyi saw the clues. Sun's "trick" was exposed.
The relationship between the two families is misplaced, where should they go? Under the mediation of the local ** Qiao Taishou, the two families finally got close to each otherLiu Pu and Aunt Zhu, Yulang and Hui Niang became husband and wife.
There is a saying that if you are not a family, you will not enter a family.As an elderly, we should respect the opinions of our children, let them fall in love freely, and build a small family well, instead of forcibly blocking them or managing them too strictly.
As long as the children's small family is warm, parents can share part of the warmth. At the same time, the old husband and wife should walk hand in hand and don't lose their love.
Solidarity and friendship as a family, and living in harmony with the United States are the blessings of several generations living together. As for the holidays in the family, it's good to laugh it off.
In society, keep the "temperament".
What is Temperament? The meaning of the word is: human nature and temperament; Character, temper, etc.
The ancients said: "At the beginning of man, nature is good." βTrue temperament must be kind feelings, whether it is for family members or outsiders.
With the change of the times, many elderly people have enjoyed the benefits of retirement. You can live a carefree day every day.
However, many old people, when they have nothing to do, wander around. Uncivilized behaviors such as climbing a tree to take pictures, stepping on sculptures to pose for poses, and lying on the ground to take pictures are often occurring.
Our ancestors warned us: "If virtue is not worthy, there will be disaster." "The elderly should set a moral example, so that they will be loved and feel the warmth of the world.
Although, the elderly may not be able to do great things, but they can start from small things and help others as much as they can. For example, on the side of the road, pull the child who crosses the road at will in time; In the park, don't make loud noises; Help the young people in the community and take care of the children.
When the people around you often give you a thumbs up, you will definitely smile and be blessed from your heart.
In life, keep the "leisure".
There is a word called "leisurely and elegant". That is to say, we should make the most of our time, let ourselves have more hobbies, and know how to enjoy time.
A writer said: "Turnips and cabbage are a fireworks love; Peas and wheat are watching over each other. β
Coarse tea and light rice, when seriously pondered, becomes a romantic fireworks; The natural scenery in the fields is also poetic. When people are old, they should develop in this direction.During the Tang Dynasty, Lu Yu was a person who loved tea very much. He divided boiling tea into three stages: one boiling, two boiling, and three boiling. The water that is boiled and boiled in the first and second boils does not taste good, so it is best not to boil, and it is best to boil three times. When it comes to the third boil, the water is on the edge of the teapot, beating slowly, like a spring.
Once, Lu Yu and Li Jiqing drank tea together in Yangzhou. Before boiling tea, send someone to the center of the Yangtze River to fetch water. The person who does the work, the diagram is simple, and he takes water by the river.
Lu Yu put the tea to his lips and said, "This is the water in the river near the shore, not the water in the south." β
The water in the river and by the river is very different, one is clear and one is turbid, one is light and one is heavy.
People, as long as they study a certain aspect persistently, they will reach a very deep realm.
When people are old, they develop hobbies and stick to hobbies, and life will be happy. Simple things will also reveal wisdom and philosophy.
Socially, keep "ruthless".
There is a saying that loneliness is a fence, and only with a fence can you have your own garden.The life of the elderly does not need to be too lively, but light as well. Moreover, a lot of social interaction is a relationship of exchange of interests. The day you leave the workplace, you have to give up.
There are also some relatives and friends who are too selfish and regard social networking as an "emotional card". If you can't help them, you'll turn your face at any time; In terms of gifts, they are also very careful, and if your gift is not enough, they will dislike it.
As you get older, do social subtraction and leave a few true friends and relatives who can help each other. The circle is smaller, but it is more warm.
Drive away those who are kind-hearted, mercenary, insatiable, inflammatory, and bullying. Seemingly ruthless, the most affectionate.
Food color, sex also", people eat "grass and trees", every grass and tree is a thing.
Think about it seriously, how much affection is in our veins? The love of parents giving birth, the love of brothers and sisters growing up together, the love of cooperation with colleagues, the love of helping friends, the love of filial piety of children, the love of rice warming the stomach, and the love of soup moistening the lungs.
As long as you know how to choose, affection and blessing will be converted into each other, and they will complement each other.
May you understand that family harmony is a blessing, doing good deeds and accumulating virtue is a blessing, three meals a day is a blessing, and three or five confidants are blessings.