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Have you ever experienced these troubles? Because of your gentleness, some people say that you "pretend too much"; Because of your integrity, some people say that you are "too stubborn"; Because you are lively and cheerful, some people say that you are "too carried away"; Because of your silent efforts, some people say that you are "too arrogant"...
Lao Yang's owl said in the book "The World is Noisy, Just Be Yourself", "The highest achievement of being a man is to fully become himself; The greatest success in life is to live life in the way you like. ”
So, the other person's voice you hear is just a reference, don't pay attention if you're unhappy. Don't live so nervously, always worry about other people's opinions, and directly ignore, block or fight back. Even if you offend people and are hated because of this, it's nothing, and the world will not get worse because of this, but will be more refreshing. How can it not be taken seriously? First of all, you have to understand that there are not many important people in your life. Score the person you care about, give 10 to the one you care about the most, his words are like a holy decree; If it is not important, give it a score of 1, what he says is equivalent to toilet paper, and you can throw it away. Secondly, you have to know that you are not that important in the hearts of others. Feel like others have an opinion about you? That's because you're always staring at other people, and you actually have an opinion about them. It's okay to care about other people's feelings, but you don't have to care about what others think. Other people's evaluations are just comments, you are the original text.
The sign of a person's maturity is that he does not need to rely on others' stammering, recognition or praise to find a sense of existence, but can accept criticism and denial, but know in his heart that this does not mean anything, this is just someone else's opinion, and there is no need to agree. To be happy, you don't have to be normal; The circles are different, and there is no need to be strong; If the three views do not agree, you don't have to make do with it. Don't always play too much in your mind and speculate about what others say about you. You can't please everyone in this world, so you might as well be yourself and bear the corresponding price. What you do, whether you succeed or not, whether it is good or not, is your own business, you are responsible for it, and it has little impact on others. Don't be limited by rules, don't live in other people's ideas, don't let other people's opinions sway your heart.
When you realize that what others think of you is essentially your own strength, you really don't care. Other people's evaluations do not represent your right or wrong, but only reflect whether their interests are damaged. It is not necessary to make everyone like you, but to make the people who like you feel that they have an eye. Work hard silently, and when you are good, you will look down on a lot of disputes, remember the good of others, and even the person who once made you cry can now sit down and drink together.