The water flows downward;People go to high places.
Everyone wants to stand on the upper floors and stay away from the lower floors.
At a certain age, I thought I was taller, but I found that I was still low.
It turns out that the days outside, the people outside, you and I are mortals.
When people are born, in the first layer, in middle age, try to climb to the second level. Very few people can reach **.
Uncle Li was on the third floor. Even so, he is not perfect and always has regrets.
I have to say that the best life is like a couplet: life can not be more satisfying, everything is only half satisfied.
About love: half obsession, half relief.
He was born into a wealthy family in Tianjin, and although his mother was his father's concubine, the family was wealthy and, in the end, did not suffer.
There is nothing lacking in the home, and you can boldly pursue what you want. This also includes love.
As a rich young master, Li Shutong met the geisha Yang Cuiqian, and with his talent, he was favored by the other party.
After the sunset rain, the autumn leaves are thin;I'm afraid of small print, and I'm ashamed of words. "Li Shutong's poems to Yang Cuixi are particularly romantic and affectionate.
Unfortunately, they did not get married. In the era of "parental life", there is too much helplessness in the love of young people.
Under the arrangement of his parents, Uncle Li married Yu, the daughter of a businessman. After all, the purpose of marriage is to bring each other together.
Faced with someone he didn't like, Li Shutong chose to go out to develop, met another lover in Japan, and gave birth to children regardless of marriage.
When Li Shutong decided to become a monk, his Japanese wife Xuexue came when she heard the news and lived outside the temple, hoping to make Li Shutong change his mind.
The wife asked, "What is love?".”
Li Shutong said: "Love is compassion. ”
The wife shouted, "Uncle Tong." ”
Li Shutong said: "Please call me Hongyi." ”
It is not my love that lays down yours", the original love, not love, but everything has passed.
How many people are married to someone they don't like, and they don't have a life with someone they really like, and they like someone again after marriage, but they are troubled.
Love is never right or wrong, and there is no perfection, if you can let go, who can be content with a lifetime, and who can naturally disperse.
I can't let it go, I can't forget it, I can't get it, I can't love it, I can't meet it. How many people are trapped?Learn to let go, the heart is broad, and love is free.
About socializing: half lively, half cold.
No one can live alone in the world and always socialize with a group of people.
But then you'll find that the more people you associate with and they're all welcoming, the more lonely you'll be.
There are very few real friends, and even when you meet friends, there will be times when you are separated.
How lively they used to be together, but later they all became even more bleak.
The end of the sky, the corner of the earth, the half of friendship. Uncle Li wrote "Farewell", which made many people sing and cry.
Perhaps, it turned out that Li Shutong wrote this song with tears.
When he was in Japan, his good friend Xu Wanyuan came to see him off.
Xu Huan's home collapsed, and no one could share the sadness in his heart.
Looking back on the first half of Li Shutong's life, as a teacher, he personally staged dramas, founded publications, and started circles such as "Five Friends of the World" with friends.
Many of his students also became his friends and kept up correspondence for a long time.
When Li Shutong was very old, he met Huang Yongyu and gave him a sentence: "If you don't seek happiness for yourself, I wish there would be no suffering in the world." ”
Just socialize with a heart to help others, make yourself happy, and don't let others have anything in return.
Feelings will never be equal, but the heart is balanced, and that's enough.
*There is perfect socialization,** there is no scattered banquet, accustomed to the place where people go to the tea cool, maybe the cup of herbal tea on the table, there is a faint taste, and there is also a taste of aftertaste in the heart.
About life: half fame and fortune, half practice.
Uncle Li, who is in his 40s, shaved his beard when he became a monk at Hurun Monastery, causing an uproar.
It is said that the "Ta Kung Pao" published the news on the same day, and it was immediately sold out.
It is not easy to understand that a good life is no longer there, but it is necessary to become a monk.
At that time, he was a first-class family, art educator, calligrapher, theater activist, one of the pioneers of Chinese theater, with countless honors, a wife and children at home, and some money.
After becoming a monk, people found that Uncle Li was completely different. All impetuousness disappeared and life began to settle down.
He often closes the door, and when he goes out, he also refuses invitations from celebrities.
Life is like the sky of the West Mountain, and wealth will be like grass frost", this is a sentence that Li Shutong said, which is enough to witness his indifference to fame and fortune.
Before returning home, he wrote: "The spring flowers are full, the moon is full and the sky is full;The most beautiful, back to the bland. ”
Decades of life, like flowers, will wither when they go to the extreme.
Ordinary people allow life to wither, and people in the sublime realm, the process of withering is also beautiful, or, can begin to blossom and bear fruit.
The first half of your life has to live for fame and fortune, after all, you have a family behind you to live;In the second half of your life, you will truly live for yourself and will no longer be bothered by the world.
As for whether life is perfect, since it is destined to be imperfect, it is better to give up.