In the eyes of outsiders, my family is happy, my husband and wife are harmonious, my son is filial, and my wife and I will walk together every day after dinner. However, only I know that there are hidden problems within the family.
My wife and I are the same age as each other, and we are both turning 60 this year, so our acquaintance was not an easy experience. At first, she was just an ordinary female worker, and I was a technician after graduating from high school.
Although my wife is a nice person, because she doesn't know much, I always have a hard time letting go of it. In addition, her mother's family is relatively poor, and there are several young brothers and sisters to take care of, and her wife's appearance is also a little simple. After I got married, I gradually felt a trace of regret in my heart.
Not only that, but even my mother is not very satisfied with this daughter-in-law, and always thinks that she is the most annoying daughter-in-law. Watching my sister-in-law be obedient to my younger siblings made my mother very happy, which made my dissatisfaction even more accumulating.
Fortunately, in the third year of marriage, my wife gave birth to a healthy son for me.
My mother comforted me and said, fortunately, the child is like me, it's not ugly, it's just a little dark. The arrival of this child has also gradually improved our family life.
At that time, I partnered with my friend in the mechanical parts business, and I was lucky enough to make a lot of money in less than half a year. After having a financial foundation, I had a lot of face in front of my wife, and even handed over the money I earned to her for safekeeping, which my wife happily accepted.
Due to my busy business, I travel a lot. Every time I came home, my mom would talk to me privately.
She quietly told me to be careful with my wife, and said that my wife often went back to her parents' house frequently when I was away, and wondered if she had taken all the money I earned.
My mom always secretly followed my wife and then came back to tell me that I was angry about it and had a big fight with my wife!
My wife also did not show weakness, she emphasized that she did not spend money in a mess, and even accused my mother in front of me of being a troublemaker, which made the family unpeaceful. When I heard her say this about my mother, I was immediately angry and slapped over!
It was this slap that interrupted the tacit understanding between our husband and wife.
Subsequently, my wife gave me all the money and filed for divorce.
I also regretted being too impulsive at the time, but my wife's outspokenness was really unbearable for me, especially her disrespect for her elders. But looking at my young son, I couldn't be ruthless, so I didn't agree to the divorce.
The wife regretted it afterwards, she realized that if a woman was divorced, life would become difficult, and her own money would be difficult to support her children. As a result, we as a couple can only continue to live in a muddle.
However, I have also become more cautious about money. Since then, I have kept the money for my own business, and my wife has a strong personality and has never asked me for money again. We agreed that in the future, half of the living expenses and half of the children's tuition fees will also be paid.
For the next twenty years, my wife worked while I went out into business. I look beautiful on the outside, and she doesn't ask, as long as I pay my living expenses on time every month.
This kind of life led to a gradual decline in our relationship, although we were still husband and wife outside, and when we got home, we were busy with our own affairs. My wife is not like other women, she doesn't seem to have much pursuit of life, others may pursue good food and clothing, and she doesn't seem to care, except for going home from work to take care of housework.
Over the years, although I have earned a lot of money, I have paid for my son's college tuition and the down payment of 600,000 yuan for getting married and buying a house. I keep all my finances by myself, and my wife doesn't know anything about my finances.
After his wife retires, she receives a monthly retirement salary and rarely goes out except for occasionally helping to take care of her grandchildren. I relaxed myself, saved 1.2 million yuan for retirement, and drank tea and fished with friends every day. When I got home, there was already a ready-made meal, and I just had to eat it hot. I never go out with my wife.
If I don't go home, my wife won't call ** to ask about my whereabouts. It wasn't until the weekend that my wife told me that my son's family would be coming home and invited me to stay for a family dinner.
Whenever my son's family of three returned, we would gather together for dinner, talk and laugh. However, as soon as the son leaves, the wife quickly tidies up everything and retreats to her room alone. For nearly 20 years, we have been sleeping alone in separate rooms. Today, it's hard for me to know if it's a couple, family, or just friends.
I don't care about this vague relationship. is already a 60-year-old person, as the saying goes, as long as you are healthy and financially well-off, you will have no worries about providing for the elderly. I have both, and more importantly, I also have a large group of friends who often get together, laugh and play, and have a full and enjoyable life.
As for whether there is a woman in the family, I don't care. If there is a change in the future, I can still rely on my son. After all, I gave so much to him growing up, and I spent a lot of money on everything from his studies to his marriage.
However, an accident at the end of last year changed my mind completely. At the poker game, I suddenly felt dizzy, and on the way home, I lost control of my hands and feet, and I fainted. After being taken to the hospital, I fell into a coma for half a month, and later learned that due to the peculiarity of the location of the brain hemorrhage, the operation was difficult to perform, and I could only rely on drugs to promote the self-absorption of blood vessels. For this reason, I spent most of the year in the hospital.
During this difficult time, at first my old friends came to visit me, but then they disappeared one by one. Although the son and daughter-in-law are filial, they can't take a long leave due to work reasons, so they have to turn to their wife for help. So, my wife has been with me, from the hospital to the ** center, and then to the home, and has been silently taking care of me. Although she was still a bit tough, she was unusually attentive in taking care of me.
Since I lost my mobility, my wife not only had to wipe my body every day, but also worried about my stiff muscles and gave me frequent massages. As I gradually **, the doctor encouraged me to go out and exercise, but I was reluctant to do so due to face problems. My wife has been encouraging me, accompanying me and helping me through this difficult time.
Now, I am able to eat independently with chopsticks and communicate with others more clearly. However, those old friends never showed up again, and I know it was because they felt that I was a burden and no longer wanted to contact me.
My wife, who has been estranged from me for decades, has never abandoned me and has been silently by my side. This experience of illness made me deeply realize that the most reliable partner in my life is my wife who has always been by my side.
For the past twenty years, our relationship has been cold and indifferent. The money I earned she never saw or touched, and she was content to rely on her retirement salary to make ends meet. At one time, I was complacent about it, and even had some feelings of contempt for her.
However, I eventually realized my mistakes. At that time, I should not have been at my mother's behest to make a complete financial separation from my life partner. This nearly shattered my trust in her, and she was disheartened. Still, she didn't give up on me, which I can't thank enough.
In the past, I used to think that at a certain age, as long as I had enough wealth and a healthy body, I could be free from anything, even regardless of whether I had a partner or not. Real life taught me a profound lesson.
It turns out that the companionship and mutual support between husband and wife are the most precious. As the saying goes, adversity sees true love, and this sentence is true.